First time sex with someone new

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We chatted for a while, met up for coffee, walks, silly little things really. we just clicked and it was great.

We had both been out with our friends and purposely ‘bumped’ into eachother.

The sex was great. Not just for me, I know he really enjoyed himself. The next day he was great, normal.

Then suddenly changed and I don’t think he’s interested anymore.

It’s a little upsetting. Just wanted to moan about it.

I know he’s obviously not worth the bother or the upset but it was really nice having that connection with someone and the sex being just as good.

Disappointing ☹️

Oh I’ll add he’s just not speaking to me. I’ve text and he was off and just stopped replying to me.

Forget him and move on. There's nothing to indicate it's any reflection on you. Most likely he was only interested in adding another notch to his bedpost or he's moved on to someone else.
Don't be upset. Better to find out he's a weasel now than after you've invested a lot more in him emotionally. As the saying goes, you have to kiss a few frogs......

It just didn’t seem that way at all! We had so many conversations about our wants etc. We had even made plans for this weekend. And I did start to get a little emotionally invested and I never usually do, all for him to just blank me. Think I’m annoyed with myself about that really.

Anyway.. he’s an asshole and I’m better than that. Just bloody hurt!

Anyway.. he’s an asshole and I’m better than that. Just bloody hurt!
Remember that and move on to someone better, who treats you properly. Some great sex with someone who is on your wavelength will cure the hurt from that asshole.

I’m so annoyed with myselllllf🙈 I finally decided to ask him what’s up instead of leaving it alone. Ignoring me.

Fucking hate myself!

You’re right. It’s just disappointing.

My friend is going through the same thing at the moment.
I read once that men don’t think clearly before sex, and women do- but women don’t see clearly after sex, and men do.
I think for women sex is a just another building block in forming a relationship, for men it seems to to be a huge junction- moving beyond it is a milestone, not having sex itself.

It’s so frustrating!

I’m never like this and I think that’s why I’m struggling so much. I genuinely thought he felt the same. Very annoying.

I hope your friends ok.. grim.

Wondered if you had a response op?

I had a similar situation recently with an old friend where I wasn't sure where I stood afterwards.

I ended up asking outright, over message (not that brave 😂) and we are still friends. I like him a lot and there are feelings there on my side, but nothing will happen again as he lives so far away (a plane journey!), only visits sporadically and I don't want to jeopardise our actual friendship

I completely understand where you are coming from though, especially as communication had been frequent and open. Can be a bit disconcerting when that changes and I understand the bed for closure etc

Sending

*need

Some guys chase sex, then move on once they’ve had it. It’s actually a form of insecurity, a bit like a rolling stone gathering no moss. What is unacceptable is not having the decency to communicate and let you know. Pathetic. Be glad you’ve found him out early!

I’m annoyed with myself because I allowed myself to start to develop feelings because we definitely do have a connection. It wasn’t a ‘new’ guy. He was someone I’ve known and developed a close bond with in terms of conversation.. then nothing. Bastard.

Anyway.. I outright asked him what was up. He ignored it and messaged me drunk whilst out with someone we both know. No thank you. His attitude towards me has completely changed and I’ve been blaming myself. Thinking that it was obviously a me problem.

So my week was shit I was fed up.. my best friend and I booked a hotel room in a different city. The weather was amazing, did some shopping, drank too many espresso martinis, danced my ass off and people watched and you know what.. it sorted me right out!

Fuck him. Fuck that weird attitude. I don’t want to be his friend, I deserve more than that bullshit. We all do!

❤️