Pornographic films

[RosieBenenden]

I admit that at 44 and DP is 57. I have never watched porn and have always found the idea offensive if honest. My DP occasionally watches it although has been respectful enough never to discuss it. What has upset and worried me is DP has suggested I try watching some with him before we DTD. Why has this suddenly cropped when he knows I have never done it before? Answers on a postcard, please.

Has there been a decline in quantity or quality of the sex you have of late? Maybe he’s trying to ramp it up?

I do admit that recently DTD has been less frequent and less satisfying for us both. If honest it is about once each month.

99.9% of porn is male centric.and varies from tacky to awful..There is couples friendly material about IMO why watch when the real thing is a million times better. Talk to each other about likes (and dislikes). Build the tension with e.g. Texts or conversation...even sexy dressing up...real lovemaking will be far more satisfying than watching porn....just my take.....

If he has suggested it, then perhaps it is his idea of how to change the current state of your physical relationship? If so, wouldn't it be worth trying it out to see?
Likewise though, you should make your own suggestion. Either something new, or maybe something you don't do much anymore.
Once a month isn't satisfying either of you from what you've said.

Porn online isn’t really about porn ‘films’ anymore. And there is plenty of amateur stuff available, or at least very convincing faux-amateur stuff.

He’s asked you to try and enjoy something with him. I’d take that as a positive that he wants to engage in making mutually satisfying changes.

As you’ve never watched porn before I’d suggest you just have a google around on your own sometime. See if anything takes your fancy. Watching it first off with your DP might be a bit pressurey.

We tried the porn together and i was surprised at the fact i wasn't totally put off. But it is symptomatic of the fact were not enjoying sex at the moment. Once a month is hardly amazing.

I dare say,that you just have to try and watch some porn stuff,if agreeable, and see how you feel then..There is nothing wrong with your husband suggesting that you might watch some porn together, as he may well think it will make things more exciting for you both.

You will know your limits as regards to porn films, as there is soft porn,and the more extreme stuff. You will surely know if you are going to enjoy anything,or be not interested at all.

There are so many different genres and strengths of pornography that I think it might be a good idea to explore it with your husband, using his knowledge of the subject. You may find something that you like, or you may not, but to damn it all without any examination of the subject is a lot like the person who doesn't like sprouts because they have never tried them.

If, by your own admission, the spark is fading, what are some of your own ideas for trying to rekindle things?

The brain is the biggest erogenous zone as the saying goes. Porn can be a helpful way to get things started upstairs for some people.

Make your own porn!!!!

Nothing quite like watching yourself get filled IMHO 🔥😛

I think watching porn as a new thing to spice things up can have that effect. We have done and I was surprised that we both enjoyed it. I wouldn't want to do all the time though. What was good as a previous comment alluded to is the brain is an erogenous zone. We found that some fantasy in bed and whispering things to each other as we played was very powerful. Some was very naughty and we didn't try all of it, and didn't intend to but it certainly was good to spice things up. Variety is the spice of life I say

Can I recommend www.frolicme.com - more couples oriented and made by a female director. found it much more exciting than the plastic fantastic Hollywood style stuff.