Too soon?

[Oaklands]

Ive just seen my midwife 10 days post c section and she has given me the all clear to start having sex again (not that I even asked).

I cant help but feel even if I did feel up to it, still too soon? All ive heard from online and other people is "you must wait 6 weeks before having sex".

Does anyone else think 10 days post c section is too soon??

It absolutely is for me but it's down to how you feel. I imagine the all clear was based on your wound healing and womb being back to normal size but whether you feel up to it or not is completely down to you. You had a baby via surgery only 10 days ago, there is no pressure to hop back on the saddle!

I don't understand why a midwife would even mention that at 10 days post major surgery - i'm quite annoyed by it, on your behalf, actually.
yes at your 6 week check up, fair enough. That's 6 weeks not fucking 10 days.
Any partner or Husband who would even consider, never mind ask their wife to have sex just 10 days later is a dick imo..... I know your's hasn't asked op but I'm on one now :)
Please don't feel like you should do it, you'll know when you're ready.

Too soon for me. I went a stroll and felt shattered and my recovery was very straight forward. Wound was still sore, it's a major operation.

Being given the all-clear doesn't mean you're obligated. If you don't feel ready then wait until you do. Your partner should be more than capable of empathising and if he isn't then he doesn't deserve to enjoy intimacy with you.

I had sex ten days pp. Was fine tbh.
Bit cramping after orgasm though!

She said what now?

That’s possibly some of the most dangerous advice I’ve heard being given by a midwife. Are you saying that she, without prompting, told you that it’s safe to have sex at 10 days post c section?

And she ascertained this how, exactly - looking at your scar? Asking about your bleeding? Were you still bleeding?

I’ve had eight Gynae surgeries - six keyhole, two open including a c section. I was told after just the surgeries, no sex for at least 6-8 weeks, and I didn’t have a huge open wound in my uterus where a placenta detached just begging for an infection.

I know of four different women who’ve ended up with severe uterine infections and even sepsis because of having sex too soon postnatally

I know this was a few months ago but wanted to comment in case anyone else reads it later. I’d honestly make a complaint.