Viagra. First time user.

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My DH I'd mid 40's has had ED on and off for years. He isn't as sexually driven as i am. Once a month would probably do him. This has always been our biggest relationship issue. He gets tired or stressed and it affects his performance. Physically there is nothing wrong with him. He can get numerous erections during foreplay, oral etc but can't maintain during intercourse. I love having sex with him but mentally if he struggles to maintain an erection then the cycle begins, it gets worse, the pressure builds and eventually he will manage but it's months of stress and me not wanting to try. Him avoiding me etc. It's not a nice situation.

He goes for years and is fine but once this starts then like I said the cycle begins. We have not had intercourse since November but we have tried to not focused on it, still enjoyed each other physically and have continued to be intimate and made each other climax. I want to have sex with him. I love him and enjoy being close. I miss him.

We've decided to try Viagra. DH has been offered it before by his GP but always turned it down. I asked how he felt about getting some. He said he'd try it so has bought some with my support and we now need to use it.

I'm nervous, he feels pressure but hasn't said anything I just can tell and it's understandable. We don't know what where doing. We've got a couple of opportunities over the next few days and this weekend. Alcohol is out as this makes it worse. How do we begin this?

You both need a few glasses of wine to relax a bit, nothing wrong with that at all.....a very common misconception!

100mg of viagra, some wine.....hang on to your hat, you may have trouble walking the next day!

100mg! We were thinking start with 25mg. Is this wrong?

That’s not wrong, but it would probably not have too much effect, maybe just giving him a headache and making him feel flushed.
Perhaps start with 50mg and see what happens. A lot of guys prefer cialis, which is longer lasting, with fewer side effects. Either way, nothing will happen if he’s not turned on, but given the information supplied, I think this will solve your problems. You may even find that, after a few strong romps, he may not even need a boost. It’s all in his head, one way or another!!

I am not a medic, so l shall leave comments on dosage to those more qualified than me. With almost all medication however, it is usually good to start low and work up.

I would suggest that he saves his wine until after the celebration. Unfortunately sex in our society is very penetration centred. If he dpes start to soften, switch back to oral and see if he livens up again and then continue. Oral only sessions are worth building into the repertoire too.

If things don’t go to plan at any time, look at it in a similar way to a cold. Not good but doesn’t have to stay like that. And never disregard your own needs. Good luck. x

As a Viagra user for some years may I offer my suggestions? I would go for the low dose to start with and increase if necessary.

Viagra does not work (for me) if taken on anything other than an empty stomach. I allow at least 5 hours after eating and then take it with a small amount of water. I sometimes use Cialis, because this drug is far more tolerant of food in the stomach.

I used to get headaches with Viagra, so began to take a couple of Paracetamol with the wonder drug and this cured the problem. The slight light-headed sensation is now much less common as I have become used to the drug.

Best wishes, and I hope it does the trick for the pair of you.

Thanks for your advice. We've been discussing it this morning and it seems the discussion was enough to get him interested. I took the opportunity and because it was unexpected, he didn't have time to worry and there were no issues! He was perfectly fine 😊. So pleased for him (and me).

We will use the next few days/weeks to ease the pressure, use the Viagra (with paracetamol, thanks for the tip) and hopefully get his confidence back in his abilities. This usually increases his sex drive. Fingers crossed it works for us.

Also a Viagra user (actually the generic) takes between 20 - 40 minutes to become effective once taken. Then "active" in his system for between 4 and 6 hours. Try not to take on a stomach that has just consume a meal heavy in fats, as the medicine will not be absorbed as well. The only side effect I've ever had was a headache the next morning like a mild hangover

I have used it in the past when with new partners and for me it completely takes the pressure off as it never fails for me. So any inhibition, anxiety or psychological doubt is eased and you can completely relax and concentrate on the job in hand.
I used a generic Cialis as it was much cheaper than branded viagra and it takes about 20-30 minutes to work for me. The added bonus is that it makes you feel like you are about 19 again as it makes you much harder than usual. It can make you feel slightly dehydrated with a headache so wise to keep drinking water.
Nothing to lose here O/P - except a few pounds - and if the problem is purely psychological it is a no brainer IMO.

It worked very well 😁. Thanks for the advice.

Did you try taking the Viagra yourself OP? Partner and I sometimes both take one - mind blowing results!

No and I don't think I need to, but time may change that. Pleased to say im a lucky women. I can turn it on like a switch, orgasm multiple times on most occasions and pretty happy with the way I am. I love sex. DH and I do not fit the gender stereotypes when it comes to sex 😊.

Sounds the same as us. We both have high sex drives and orgasmic response and didn’t need to take the Viagra; we just thought we’d give it a go when it became available over the counter last year.