Anyone been body shamed for protruding labia

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Now I know protruding labia are normal, everyone is unique etc. Have any of you ladies ever had anyone body shame you for it? How do you feel going into a new relationship. I've only had 3 sexual partners (long term relationships) and been on my own for a while now and this is holding me back. 2 previous partners have passed comment, nothing really nasty but made quite clear reference. Some days I think screw it if someone doesn't like it they arnt worth my time and others I realise how much my anxieties control how open I can be with someone

I haven’t. Having said that we should all be proud of being different. If it came up in conversation, I would merely explain that we are all different in the same way as fingerprints.

It’s also something some people have quite a (positive) thing about.

Easier to kiss too!!!

I had never gave it a thought until my friend asked me about on a girls holiday. Then forgot all about it until I seen naked attraction and thought none of theirs look like mine. Now it's something else about my body I will be self conscious of!

Body shamed? No.
Worshipped? Yes!
Many lovers prefer it.

Simply from a male perspective, I find it really attractive so don't be put off or feel self conscious at all. I'm sure many men feel the same way I do.

No I haven't. Well not too my face 😁 I have always been a bit embarrassed by them but OH loves the way I am. I've had a fair number of lovers and no one has been anything except complimentary about my bed skills

I've always felt self conscious about it but even more so now to the point id consider surgery. But then I think I've got such better things to spend money on. I personally don't see the big issue but it's others opinions I worry about. Sounds stupid I know.

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/feb/09/me-and-my-vulva-100-women-reveal-all-photographs

Worth a read - we are all different shapes and sizes

ChristmasHumper- fantastic article. It does really show how different we can all be and I think it's so good that these kinds of things are done when there are so many idealisms of How we 'should look' compared to reality

Anyone, whether male or female, who in any way makes you feel bad about your large labia, or indeed any other body part, is an ill-informed arse of a person and totally unworthy of your time and affection.

Many men find the vulva of an adult woman with large labia to be most erotic; please do not conform to the concept that all women need to resemble little girls in order to be attractive. Forget any idea of surgery and be proud of your body.

I'm the same OP. Nothing to feel worried about.

Mine are much darker (like very dark brown). I'm half Asian but still, they are VERY dark, and I also have a very prominent clitoris, especially when in the mood, IYSWIM.

Nobody has ever commented in a negative way.

To be honest, I doubt most partners care, they're so happy to be naked with you that the shape of your bits is irrelevant.

No lover has but a nurse commented on it during a smear and I felt awful.

What did she (or he) say? Sounds unprofessional.

She said 'Oh you are very long down here'. Thanks for that sister.

Oh no, I'd be mortified. One nurse once said I had a lovely cervix I didn't quite know how to respond to that. I work in healthcare and wouldnt dream of commenting on any personal parts not that I even look in that way to judge. Crazy

The only commentary I want from healthcare professionals is "your cervix looks healthy"

And just to add, yes we are all individuals and getting into a lady garden should be a surprising and wondrous experience.

I mainly have sex with men, but the women I have slept with have had various sizes and shapes of labia and I frankly couldn't care less! I'm just horny as fuck that they are as in the mood as I am.

My labia are obvious when I'm naked & protrude downwards almost an inch when I'm standing. They are quite dark (I'm olive-skinned) and very symmetrical.

I've never had any negative comments - just as well really - I'd never tell someone their penis was too small/large/funny-shaped or their breasts were too floppy, for example.

How rude people can be!

Alison did the nurse actually mean your labia or was she commenting on the length of your vagina? - she might well have been - there are extra-long speculums for "longer ladies".

No she meant my labia. I'm actually shorter internally so no issues there. She made the comment as she was um..rearranging me so she could get 'access' before she went in.

No never. When I was younger I didn't particularly like my labia and thought I was different or the only one like that. Mine are darker in colour and protrude a bit.
I couldn't care now as I now know we are all different shapes and sizes in the same way boobs, noses and ears are. (although porn would have you think differently - neat little labia, nothing protruding and the'' right'' colour. I think we all know how that is achieved though. I wouldn't imagine many women being naturally like that - in my experience - I've never saw one like that)
I have never and would never negatively comment about the shape or size of someones genitalia. You have to be a special kind of arsehole to make someone feel embarrassed and ashamed over something we have no control of.

Nowadays you see all kinds of labia in porn.

I've never known a man do it. I've seen women say it about other women though and it's been vile to read/hear and mine aren't even protruding so it wasn't even personal.

Yes I've heard more women making comments than men. Or on social media.

I seem to remember from medical school that 75% of women have labia minora which protrude beyond labia majora.
OP you are normal and the same as the majority of women. Nothing wrong either way.
Show the door to any man who comments negatively.

Yes - as a child/teenager by HCPs (I had thrush constantly , I remember being young and the doctor saying , I would almost certainly need surgery once I turned 18) , sibling, and a friend .

Had them trimmed years later on NHS, as was causing all manner of medical issue - when I think back now I sometimes wish I’d asked for more help before just having the surgery . Still see my vulva as an ugly horrible thing even now .