ONS

[Fohoodar]

Have NC for this.

So I had a ONS at the start of Jan after a dry spell of nearly a year.

It was a friend of a friend at a party. It was great!

But I could tell at the time he didn't want anything else - just a bit of fun. Which I thought I did too (he lives quite far away, a good few hours).

It was lovely; he was lovely. But we made no plans to stay in touch.

I cracked and a week later sent him a message (kept it light and breezy and not requiring of a reply. But, he never replied).

Mutual friend says he's lovely but NOT relationship material.

Now I can't stop bloody thinking about how great the sex was and how I'd like to do it again.

Today we both posted on our mutual friend's Facebook wall and it drove me mad to see that he was active in the same cyber space as me.

Arg! I'm so tempted to message him again but I know it's not a good idea. I'm sitting in my hands.

Tell me not to!

I know it's the dopamine after sex I'm craving.

I debated posting this in Relationships, but it's the sex I'm after, not a relationship.

I've never really had ONS before (was married for 20 years previously). I think perhaps I'm not cut out for them. Well - I am, but one night isn't enough!

Maybe nip on Tinder and find a diversion...?

He is not worth your time dreaming of the one night stand, if he can't be bothered to answer your message.

Better to find a FWB.

Yes you are right (thanks - I just needed to hear someone tell me!)

See if you can coincidentally meet again at another party and repeat the experience

It’s really easy to be lovely and a great lay once, when drunk and horny.

Keeping it going is a different matter.

He knows this.

Guys like him usually end up as lonely old men though.

Don’t contact him, move on to something far better than him.

Hang on, i think both parties realised that it was a ONS /a one off shared experience so i think its a bit unfair to place all this expectation on the guy. At best he could have ent a courteous reply. Maybe hes running scared .

I would take your experience as a positive reflection of your own sexual capacity.

In other words, it could have been great with a vast number of other men and I'm sure there are plenty of othet opportunities out there.

If he can't be bothered to reply to a text that's his loss.

Fulfilling, casual sex is not difficult to find.

Find someone else to have sex with.

It’s not him you want. It’s sex.

Plenty of men out there willing.

The same thing happened to me and I am still pestering my first ONS for another go on the merry-go-round, 5 months later 😉
He's not interested and enjoys the attention I give him but I'm kidding myself to think
I'm ever going to see him again.
You have to think "oh well" and move on I'm afraid ...

Forget him. Find someone else to give you what you're looking for. There's plenty out there.
If Mr-I don't reply to texts ever booty calls you tell him where to go. Not that I find anything wrong with booty calls if both parties are up for it but certainly not when one half can't be arsed to reply to someone he's recently had his penis inside.

Sounds like you do want something more from him than just sex. It's him and his loveliness you want. Don't contact. If he wanted to see you again he would have contacted you and persued you

I had a similar experience and actually posted on here about it. I had messaged and it left me feeling rubbish. If a man is interested then he persues, it's as simple as that.