Advice on CAT position?

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Unable to orgasm through PIV with boyfriend. Can do so in other ways but I think he feels disappointed that he can't get me to orgasm with PIV.
And, to be fair, I think it would be nice too.
So Google would lead me to believe that the coital alignment technique is best for getting women to orgasm through PIV.
But I'm not wholly clear how it works. I know it's guy on top but bit hazy other than that as seen some seemingly contradictory explanations.

Anyone can clearly explain?
Or particularly if you've had similar issue and tried this successfully or some other advice for my query on how to achieve this.

I know this is said to be a common issue for women but this does feel a bit disappointing so hoping to find a solution.

Thanks

Sadly, I believe CAT is a load of absolute nonsense, made up to sell Cosmopolitan. A bit of additional manual rubbing during the main event is the only thing I've found which work semi reliably.

If you are climaxing, glory be! Don’t worry about how you are getting there.

No need for either of you to be disappointed. Just enjoy!

Basically its and up/down motion rather than thrusting in and out.

He needs to position himself so that the shaft rubs against your clitoris. Trial and error really.

I actually managed to bring DW to orgasm once deliberately trying this method (and yes I had read it in something like Cosmo) tried it a couple more times after that to absolutely no avail. I usually ensure she comes before we go PIV or I get a treat, on this occasion I tried to calculate how near she was then went for it and it worked, but it was obviously a fluke.

I simply cannot understand how it works without bending the penis 90 degrees.

Please correct me if my understanding of the female anatomy is wrong here, but if you look at the vaginal opening, the clitoris is above this in the 12 o'clock position, approximately 1cm ish, give or take above the top of the vaginal canal.

As the penis thrusts in and out, it goes nowhere near the clitoris, hence most women do not climax from direct thrusting as quite simply, the penis does not rub the clitoris.

If the woman has a clitoris that is positioned quite close to the vaginal opening, or has has inner labia that drag over the bulb of the clitoris by proxy, dragged along by the motion of the penis, then there is a chance of orgasm.

But assuming this i snot the case, for the penis to rub against the clitoris whilst thrusting means you must have to angle the penis so it slides almost perpendicular to the vaginal opening, like walking past your front door rather than walking through it.

To rub across the clit and then enter the vagina at the same time requires the penis to almost bend 90 degrees to then enter the vagina, which unless you have a lazy lob on or a very bent penis, is either not going to happen, or is extremely uncomfortable.

I've tried it several times and there's just no way you can get an acute enough angle to actually touch the clit whilst also thrusting in and out.

Imagine posting a rolled up news paper through your letter box whilst trying to make it rub across the door knocker at the same time.

If I'm completely missing something, please educate me but the mechanics and angles simply do not add up or make sense.

Having just done some more research on this, it would appear that it's not designed for the penis to rub the clit, which explains the mechanical position issue I described above.

Apparently it's supposed to be the mans pelvis the rubs the clit, similar to when a woman grinds on top.

That's all when and good, but what if the woman can't grind on top because the penis reaches the end of the vagina fist before the pelvis touches as is the case with us? We can gt close enough for pubic hair to touch, but not for direct firm physical contact

1cm between the two - whit? You need space for the urinary canal between them, it's at least three for me.

Yy to pelvis stimulation and closeness. This is where the less "endowed" (stupid term) and thin of the species come into play 😉

That works for me anyway. Your mileage may vary. It took me until my forties to realise that sexual compatibility is a physical issue rather than just liking the same things 😶

Up, down and in! You need to be in your haunches and lean forward a bit.
Or just grind!

It's therefore no different to the woman being on top then - same effect, clit rubbing on the man's pubic bone?

Sadly, we can't get close enough without it causing internal discomfort for my DW.

Plus, as it takes her forever to reach orgasm, just grinding back and forth for 30-60 minutes would get sore and boring.

I cant see it being that successful though of course its close, intimate and allows bodily contact and kissing. More successful might be woman lies back with legs wide apart whilst man thrusts deep and massages her clitoris and breasts..

Grinding is just uncomfortable.

Go for doggy style instead and just pray his cock is long enough and angled the right way to hit the G-spot.

If it's not, then at least you've got easy access to use a vibrator on your clit while he's fucking you.