Do I tell DP about my new lone use toy?

[Ingeniousindustry]

We don't live together.

No reason

No? Does he tell you every time he has a wank?

I guess you're right. I feel a bit bad but I'm not sure why really.

Look at it like this - would you want to know if je had a fleshlite at home

I'd be interested.
I might feel slightly hmmm if it was a secret that I found out about.

There is no need to tell him. It is yours. Itvis your comfort zone. No need to go beyond it. I have got 4 in my top drawer including a waterproof one for the bath. Some bed friends have kniwn, others not. It’s certainly not anything you should feel bad about.

Unless you want to teach him howcto drive it.

Enjoy the buzz.

Sorry. Late night typos!

I wouldn't and didn't before we moved in together.

Nope, unless you want to use it when you're together.

Well,its your private time and joy, but if it's on your mind, as in feeling a bit secretive and guilty,perhaps tell your partner,and he may well enjoy seeing the said toy etc.

Well you don't live together so I don't see why you should feel you have to. However, I had never used one and my husband did start saying one night when playing should we try one which I found exciting but initially responded no. Eventually though he did buy one without telling me and I agreed we could try as a little foreplay and wow, what an exciting addition to spice things up. We don't use all the time, but is usually a good sign if we get it out so what I would say is perhaps consider at some point when comfortable to introduce as a couple. My husband would have been so excited if I had been the one to buy and introduce it so perhaps give a go when ready...massive enjoyment to be had as it is different

When I had a couple of long distance or not living together relationships during my single years, it was sexy to discuss what we did for pleasure when we weren’t together. It added a bit of spice when having a wank to think or know she might be doing something similar. Only one had (or only one admitted) a vibe. With one GF sometimes we would agree a time that we would do it and we also had phone sex a couple of times trying to come together. Don’t feel pressured to tell him if you’d rather keep it a secret but sharing it might be fun.

Joke

Actually OP, don't tell him then stick it up his ass next time you have sex.

(This is a joke)

Thanks for replies.
@SimplySteve especially since its a Womaniser I got for myself
We have a wand for using together at his place but it took him a little time to not find using it a blow to his self esteem.. I find it difficult to climax without a bit of help. He's fine with it now.

@Ingeniousindustry You can get a silicone sleeve that fits on the wand, it has a textured tube for penis. The results are particularly explosive! Lovehoney sell them for roughly a tenner.