Ridiculously horny...at my age!

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So I was in a very bad marriage. Never thought I'd have a man in my life again after abuse but after nearly 5years started online dating, just to go out and have some fun really.

But I've gone and met someone I really like. It's mutual. V early days and haven't had sex yet but omg it is ALL I can think about. It's driving me mad.

Part of me wants to go total cave woman and drag him to bed but part of me is scared to death. I might have some issues from my marriage and I won't know until it happens. New guy knows I had bad time but nothing more.

So do I just let it happen and risk being scared and freaking out a bit or do I wait until he knows and then would understand? And in the meantime just put up with being ridiculously horny! Argh... I'm too old for this!

I'd lay your cards on the table. If he is the decent guy you suspect him to be, he'll understand. Best wishes.

Never too old, go for it!!!!

Talk! If he's a decent man, he'll "get" it.

Good luck.

Thanks. Yes you're right but the convo isn't an easy one so will have to wait a little while longer because i don't want to talk about ex tomorrow and we're not together long tomorrow. I know he'll be lovely about it, I just didn't want to dtd and react weird and him think its anything he's done. I will have to keep a lid on my raging hormones for another week..omg.

I'm in the camp 'don't talk'. I had bad time too and similar worries, mentioned it to a guy long tome ago and he was lovely about it (despite both of us being young), mentioned it to another guy and he was all weird about it despite us being early thirties then.

I never mentioned anything to new partners since, I'd deal with it when I do freak out.

Oh sorry, forgot to mention, I discovered that giving in to your hormones usually works well ;)

Thanks @viviene. I've started wondering if you're right. It's too heavy isn't it? I mean if it turns into a serious relationship then he'll find out at some point but to lay it all out...I dunno. I'm seeing him in a week. I'm desperate to give in to hormones but I am scared. I don't cope with feeling vulnerable after what ex did to me and I am already feeling bit vulnerable because I really like him. I'm scared I'll end up crying which probably sounds nuts.

Print off this thread and show him. It explains both your natural desire for him balanced against your understandable reticence based on your past experience.