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Seduction

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auntsarent · 06/12/2018 22:15

Me and a colleague have been flirting via our eyes for a couple of months. I have a huge crush on him. How do I move this on to the next stage? I know I should just ‘talk to him’. But I’d like something a bit more subtle in case I’ve misread things! We both get a bit shy when we actually have to talk anyway 😳. What should I say to keep it flirty but no pressure? I’ve been single for too long...

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Jason118 · 06/12/2018 23:34

If you want no pressure, why be flirty? What's wrong with 'fancy a coffee later?'

Sadik · 07/12/2018 16:47

Yeah, I'd invite out for coffee or alternatively for a drink after work on a Friday night 'sometime if you've got a quiet evening & don't fancy heading straight home'.

That way he can respond anything from 'sure, maybe some time' to 'what about tonight' if he's really keen!
(Did something similar with my now BF after a work related event - asked him for a drink 'if he was ever passing' - figured when I got an email the next day with 3 suggested dates that he was probably keen Grin )

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auntsarent · 07/12/2018 22:22

Thank you for your thoughts. I thought asking out on 'a date' would be too much too soon but it seems not :) I'm going to be brave and go for it

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Jason118 · 08/12/2018 06:53

Good luck, you'll know one way or another SmileSmile

Christian77 · 08/12/2018 10:52

I once said to a young lady I fancied: Fancy a Chinese some time? Yes, she said! When are you free? Tonight!!
I bought her a meal EVERY night for three weeks and then, when she FINALLY decided to reciprocate, she forgot her cards....but I drove her home to get them!!!!
We got engaged soon after and that was that.
So be careful how you ask him!!!

Sadik · 08/12/2018 14:32

I guess asking for a coffee / after work drink is a sort of half-way house to a 'proper date'. TBH I wasn't sure when now-BF said yes whether he thought he was coming on a date or not, and he later confessed he was exactly the same Grin (We figured it out by the next one though....)

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auntsarent · 08/12/2018 18:32

I’m not sure again now. When we talk he doesn’t seem keen at all. Not warm like he normally is. We don’t work closely so I think suggesting coffee would be an obvious date. I’m so scared of rejection, especially when I’m really enjoying the non verbal flirting we are doing! Maybe it’s just an ego boost for him though and he’s not actually interested...

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TinManc · 09/12/2018 09:37

Is there a mutual friend/ colleague you could ask to make a discreet enquiry?

BunnyTeapot · 12/12/2018 15:43

How about going out for lunch?

Honeyloveyou · 08/07/2022 09:28

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