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A mans request ....

22 replies

mindreaderofdarkthoughts · 11/11/2018 20:38

Hey guys ,

So my partner wants to fulfill one of his fantasies and wants me to tie him up and tease him. He has a blindfold too.

Honestly , I'm excited - like so much - but I've never done something like this before and I'm feeling nervous .

What kind of things would I do to "tease" him once tied up? I'm just going into panic, even though I know I'll enjoy it.

It's leg cuffs too as well as hand cuffs

Help !! Thanks xxx

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Tinkerbellx · 11/11/2018 23:17

Oooh let your imagination run riot .
His senses will all be heightened so maybe think of things to tease him with . Maybe a feather or your tongue / mouth ?
Work you way up and around everrywhere you can until he's wriggling with anticipation ??

Anotherblokelurking · 12/11/2018 13:35

Still one of my favourite treats as well!

You would probably have to watch some tedious and awful stuff before you find the right thing but you could google it for some helpful (porn) videos, make sure you anti-virus is on tho. I agree with the comment above, ignore his cock and tease everywhere until he’s begging you to finish him off, and still ignore him!

Personally for me ice cubes don’t cut it, especially on my cock, but maybe worth a try. I like massage oil. Feathers are OK but if you have nails, gently drawing your nails or fingertips down his arms, across his chest, up his inner thighs. Eventually across his balls and along the shaft.

Lower your nipples to his lips, but don’t let him suck them; likewise lower your fanny to his face, let him smell you, possibly a quick lick. You’re teasing him remember, don’t give him too much yet.

You don’t say how many pairs of handcuffs you have or what anchor points you have but try and tie him down spread-eagled like a starfish. Also consider headphones/earphones with music playing and a scented candle, then he won’t even know if you are in the room*, you can tease then leave; or sit and watch him wriggle. Video it with code ups of his twitching cock, and play it back later - but don't share it!!

*Download a sexy audio book story instead of music, or instead of the headphones, if there’s a TV in the room put a porn movie on, or on a laptop. You don’t have to watch it yourself if it’s not your thing, just let him hear the sounds. Or if you can find a audio book story involving a man being tied down and teased, play it so you can both hear and act along with it.

** I was once tied down for a few hours and she would keep leaving me alone for long spells; at one point she came into the bedroom and lit a cigarette and smoked it, blowing the smoke my way but not letting me have a puff. Bitch! Smile

You could do with knowing if he can get more than one stiffie and ejaculation in a session and what his recovery time is; and will the second or third one be stiff enough for some PIV so you get your reward. Is it going to be a 20 minute jobbie or 3 or 4 hours?

It may be possible when you eventually turn your attention to his cock you can make him come without actually wanking or sucking it - gently lick along the shaft, or drag your nails or finger tips along it. Pour some massage oil on his bell-end and gently rub it with your thumb and finger. Rub your fanny along it, push the opening against his bell-end but don’t let him lift his hips and push it in.

You don’t need to decide in advance but eventually you will have to decide what the ultimate treat is – tease his bell-end till he comes, hand job, blow job, 69er, girl on top. Or to be an ultimate tease remove the blindfold, untie his wanking hand and put on a show, strip-tease, masturbate yourself, sit nearly on his face, etc, let him pleasure himself as he watches.

if you want some practice, here's my number Grin

Anotherblokelurking · 12/11/2018 15:21

Code ups?? Close ups !!

mindreaderofdarkthoughts · 12/11/2018 15:24

Oh my god thank you for that amazing reply !!!

And thanks to the other too - I appreciate the responses .

I'm going to have to go away and think and watch and ahhhhhh I'm excited !!

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itwasntmehonest · 12/11/2018 19:15

Bloody hell @Anotherblokelurking I need a cold shower after reading that! 🙈

Enjoy @mindreaderofdarkthoughts!

Anotherblokelurking · 13/11/2018 13:45

Sorry to add ......... Also, the perineum, the area between the balls and bum hole is sensitive in an enjoyable way for most men. Being gently tickled with nails or finger tips.

Some, but not all men may even like a finger up the bum. But not with nails and use lube or plenty of the massage oil!! And be careful not to trigger an early ejaculation by touching the prostrate.

Those that don't want a finger up there will still enjoy being tickled and massaged round there, and being teased (threatened!) by the idea of a finger being pushed up there.

Butterfly44 · 13/11/2018 20:12

😂 @Anotherblokelurking
I don't think anyone else can add to that reply. There you have it OP!

Nuffaluff · 13/11/2018 21:15

This is so informative. You should write your own manual anotherbloke.
(Off over to feminism board now to calm down).

mindreaderofdarkthoughts · 13/11/2018 22:12

Honestly because of your reply I'm so fucking excited now!!!

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noego · 13/11/2018 23:03

its about anticipation and teasing.

doughnutbits · 14/11/2018 16:44

Think about how you start. Text during the day - it's happening tonight.

Send him upstairs with his phone whilst you give instructions from downstairs. Undresses himself, puts on blindfold, waits on his knees, whatever you fancy. Tell him you're playing with yourself in great detail and so on.

Sorry to do the boring bit, but make sure there's a spare key for the handcuffs, though I'm told the fire service are quite used to such requests!

First time, suggest not more than an hour - tied tight muscles can get stiff (stop sniggering at the back) spasm and give cramp. Might take the edge off!

Above all, keep it happy and fun. Good luck to you both and think about him returning the compliment at some time if that's what you fancy.

Anotherblokelurking · 16/11/2018 06:40

Great ideas doughnutbits Grin

doughnutbits · 16/11/2018 10:46

Why thank you anotherblokelurking. OP, should the handcuffs leave marks, Distilled Witchhazel is good (Boots) or use tennis wrist bands, but better to use bandages or light rope IMHO. As long as you've a pair of scissors handy!

I suggest trying just a few of the ideas you’ve been given, save some for the next session - I’m sure there will be one! Here’s a some more.

Squeeze his balls gently, but gradually increase pressure to see how much he can take.
Similarly, put finger nails around his erection just under the head and increase pressure.

Open hand, slap his erection for being a naughty boy for making a mess - I’m sure he’ll be dribbling.

With erection,

treat like a peace of soap and wash your hands with it,

hold it with both hands one above the other, and imagine it’s a salt grinder.

pull foreskin down as far as it will go, with other hand flat, rub the very end in centre of palm with no lubrication. He may yelp!

Cuddle afterwards and chat - about how he felt, how you felt, open up to each other, it can be a truly loving moment.

Anotherblokelurking · 16/11/2018 19:33

Wow, I need a cold shower now!!

mindreaderofdarkthoughts · 17/11/2018 00:09

It was a success !!!!!

Thank you thank you thank you :)

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doughnutbits · 17/11/2018 08:47

Well done, well done, so pleased for you both, may you have many happy times together. Smile

Saddlerider · 29/11/2018 16:37

Hi mindreader I’ve just started my own thread because I’m about to embark on this but as the submissive one! Anything you’d recommend for a first time?

SpamChaudFroid · 01/12/2018 13:23

Tip - don't put cable ties around the scrotum.

Thankfully the testicle owner saw the funny side. Eventually.

Anotherblokelurking · 01/12/2018 15:57

OH er, missus, made me wince Grin

Chesterwife · 01/12/2018 20:53

Loving some of the suggestions here!

My OH and I often do some kind of variation on one of us blindfolding the other and then teasing for a while.

For me, I think the key is working in a mix of sensations, textures and sounds.

I often try to talk dirty to build up his anticipation, but then again absolute silence can also work sometimes, just to leave him guessing!

Having a few “props” hidden away can also quite be useful. They don’t need to be anything too inspired or expensive either. Personal favorites include:

  • Massage oil, a feather duster, a gentle(ish) whip (all fairly obvious)
  • Whipped cream (or something else to pour / lick up)
  • Latex/nitrile gloves (snapping them on has an absolutely amazing effect on my OH, and the texture seems to work v well with lube... also invaulable for fingering his prostate)
MarieG10 · 02/12/2018 07:18

Chesterwife. Agree with your post. We tried some similar things to keep things varied and spiced up. We started more by him tying me up, but what I did find exciting as well (which we hadn't done much of before) was him talking dirty to me. As I responded, he got more confident and got even dirtier lol and god was that a good night.

It gave me the confidence to try different things after that...weekend away etc, I tried dressing up for him and doing some dirty talk back....once I saw he liked it I continued and well fab night had, enough said!

All about knowing your partner and becoming more confident but the naughtiness of it really seemed to do it for us

Renarde1975 · 08/12/2018 22:39

Urm.. careful with Fetlife there. You won't get a huge amount in the way of tips for newbies, bizarre as that sounds. We prefer arguing about how mean John Baku is and why The Wolf should have been jailed! Incels are hot topics too.

As to the PP who said he had one person leave him when he was tied up.

It goes without saying that you should NEVER do this; it's so incredibly dangerous. Think SSC and RACK

Safe Sane Consensual and Risk Aware Consensual Kink

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