How to discuss lost climax with doctors

[Wallywobbles]

I am due a rectocele and probably a cystocele. I also have a prolapse. The damage was done at DC1s birth 14 years ago.

Baggy fanny issues but DH doesn't seem to mind. Tampax can be totally hit and miss. Moon cup is not an option etc.

Now to the issue. I've found orgasm increasingly difficult to achieve during sex. In fact it's probably been a good year since that happened but that's always been solved by manual clitoral stimulation.

But for the last 3 months I get to the point of orgasm and it just bloody disappears. Nowt in terms of climax.

So I'm due to see the urologist again in about 2 weeks and I don't think he really gets what a huge issue this is. It's totally bollocks. How can I explain it to him so that he actually gets it. Also after the surgery will this get better or worse?

Bump. Am I really the only one? Is this really it?

Hi
Do you mean you think you HAVE rectocele and cystocele ? These are both a type of prolapse .
Prolapse no matter how advanced wouldn't prevent a climax . However the symptoms may inhibit your enjoyment or comfort possibly causing this .
When you've had surgery you'll most likely have much better orgasms ( Im 47 and has my surgery a few years ago and never looked back ) but anatomically it's not going to prevent an orgasm .
Are you under any stress at the moment?
Can you ( excuse the TMI )get there yourself ?

I had a rectocele and have had it repaired twice so totally get how awful you feel . This time I feel so much more confident and can feel and enjoy sex again .
HTH

Thank you tinker. I can got myself there but I then don't actually climax. I know I've cum but I can't feel the actual end bit at all.

I've got a grade 3 rectocele and I'm going through final testing on the cystocele thought to be grade 2 to find out what they're are going to do with that. But I also have something that kind of sticks out of my vagina which I thought was a prolapse too.

Are you on any medication?

I don’t know anything about the other issues you mention, but I lost my orgasms when I was deficient in B12. It’s used to protect your nerve endings so without it you can end up with numbness (autocorrected to bumblebees ) and tingling in your extremities. I was numb on my face, feet, hips, fingers and then when it went to my nethers I got scared and went to the GP! Should have gone sooner.

If it’s definitely connected to your other issues then i have no idea but I hope you get it sorted.

I could be deficient in something - I'll start taking some multi vitamins.

Thanks for replying.