Hi I’m in a new relationship (6months), the sex is fantastic, he’s really attentive and makes sure I am satisfied. During foreplay he can be rock hard. But I take a little while to reach orgasm and when we move onto piv we are having some problems.
Basically his erection keeps disappearing! I think it’s partly psychological, so if things are going ok and then something happens (change of position, hair in mouth, cough etc) then it disappears. He is finding it difficult and I’m worried that it’s going to become an issue. We always manage to work around it and he usually manages to reach a climax.
Honestly quickies are normally best from a performance perspective and I don’t mind continuing on afterwards to meet my needs. But he prefers to put me first rather than him.
Is this normal in your early forties? Anyone got any advice on how to address this without making a massive issue of it? I am having amazing sex and he is really good in bed but it does affect the flow of things somewhat.