Is this normal for erections at 35?

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DH and I have been together a looong time, since teens, no other partners.

Sex life has ebbed and flowed as it does with the arrival of 3 kids. Youngest is now 2 and things are definitely improving, make an effort to dtd once a week, both of us initiate, he seems very turned on during it as am I, plenty of foreplay, and he usually comes with piv.

Recently however, say within the last year his erection definitely isnt as hard or big. I used to wonder how the hell i would get it all in, not so much now. It doesnt matter how much foreplay, oral or sex, its a very rare occassion you see it standing straight up, (you know a big head, veins ready to pop ) Its perfectly adequate hardness wise for actual sex but it definitely feels different.

So is this a form of mild dysfunction? Is it age? Is it me and my baby weight that just isnt doing it for him at the moment? Too much porn? Or a sign of another medical problem?

We have discussed it but i dont want to make a huge deal out of it. Im more concerned its a sign of an underlying health problem.

Would appreciate any experience, thanks.

It’s not normal for a 35 yo to have erectile dysfunction without it being related to other health issues. Could be a load of things: alcohol, weight gain, stress etc.

Thanks joey, is this erectile dysfunction though? I thought erectile dysfunction was an inability to get or maintain an erection at all, dh can maintain an erection right up to orgasm.

The erect penis needs blood flow. Obviously if the arteries are getting narrowed blood flow is reduced. This can happen through poor lifestyle. For example smoking, poor diet, alcohol, lack of exercise etc.
As men age the erections start to be less (ahem) rigid. So a fully erect penis at say age 18 would be pointing upwards.
If we took as a reference the numbers on a clock at 18 the penis would point to 11.00 at 30 probably 10.00 at 40 probably 9.00 and at 60 probably 8.00 (trying to give you some idea)
If you feel that this is maybe a lack of blood supply, then I would recommend going to see your GP. Ask for blood tests to be done, to check functionality for cholesterol and fats, also get prostate checked, (enlarged prostate could have an effect) and of course blood pressure.
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I'd get him checked out medically, is he on any medications that cause Ed? If all clear I'd definitely suspect too much porn use.

This is normal. It's still hard and doing the job but it's now at 95% instead of 100%. Mid to late 30s is normal for this to begin.