Orgasm during intercourse with DH

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I have name-changed for this.

I'm almost 40 and I got my very first orgasm about 3 years ago thanks to a vibrator and I never looked back. Dh and I have a good sex life but I never manage come while we have sex. He does touch much down and it almost got me there but no success. Sometimes, we use the vibrator sometimes while we are having sex and it's great because I get to have a clitoridian orgasm during penetration but afterwards I feel guilty, I'd love nothing more to get an orgasm thanks to my husband. We subscribed to OMG yes but it's just a bit of fun for him ! What else could I do to help him get there or give up and carry on as we are now (which wouldn't be too big a deal!) Thank you !

You have to do quite a bit of the work yourself OP...are you using your hips to move in a way which could cause orgasm? It's not just up to him...

Press down on your stomach in the 'g' spot area when he is penetrating you so you feel the penis going in and out and rubbing against it. He can do this with his hand or you can.
There is always the option of you rubbing your clit whilst he is doing the business as well.

Why not go on top and control things exactly how you like them and get there that way?

PIV orgasms are in the minority and as per the previous poster, it's going to be very much down to you to orchestrate what happens, where, how and when to make it happen.

For many it never does or will.

Nope I do nothing and hope for the best ! I haven't loads of experience so it's nice to get advice from you

Hoping for the best is not the way to ensure an orgasm!
Use the vibrator every time, don't feel guilty about it, most women can't orgasm purely from penetration. Make your orgasm a priority.

I don’t want to make him feel inadequate, I don’t know if i will dare using everytime. I’m on a look for a great vibrator if you have suggestions!

You can get vibrating cock rings, they're really common now Durex make them, I think you get them in Tesco and Boots even.

@buntyll

Do you still get points? :)

Love Honey for vibrators. They have a huge selection, good advice and discreet packaging.

Your orgasm is your responsibility, he can help you along the way!

Does he do oral? I love (oh God can't believe I'm typing this 😳😳) being fingered inside whilst he sucks my clit 😳😳

And most importantly have fun making up for all those lost years!! 👍🏻

That’s a new way of seeing it - my orgasm, my responsibility 😊 True. Thank you for sharing do. We do oral but not often - we have 2 teenagers so things tend to go quick and nothing too risky. Few years ago, we tried a cock ring but I think it was too tight on him - are there different size or are they all the same ?

Most men IMO like women to join in & help - they find it a turn on

I hardly ever come from PIV with no "helping hands" - occasionally do if on top & move my hips in a certain way - even then not guaranteed.

Tensing your thighs helps things along.

I have just name changed for this... A little graphic but I jump on top and ask DP to hold it in me deep and not move until I say, I then do my thing and it feels amazing.

The few women who orgasm from PIV are anatomically blessed with having their clitoris very close to the opening of their vag. For the rest of us mere mortals, clit stimulation is required.

You could try and use your 'plastic friend' in foreplay, have an orgasm then go to piv? You'd be more likely that was to come through the piv part as you'll be very aroused down there (and confidence that you can do it certainly breeds success !)

On the floor, cushion under base of your back and he should hit your gspot!

You need to do some work OP!!

Personally these are my fave 'O' positions! :

Try raising your hips while you're under him and moving with him. I'm sure it's different for everyone but getting him to go slow and deep in this position always does it for me

Doggy style

You riding on top either facing him or in reverse

Play around and try some different positions, take charge sometimes and see what feels good! Have fun

I have only had one partner who made me come 90% of the time we had sex through PIV. It was bloody amazing. I’m not even sure how he did it 🤷‍♀️ He was no more well endowed than any other man I have been with but he must have had his technique practiced. Sadly he turned out to be a right douche as he snuck out in the middle of the night are two (bloody fantastic) shags and was never seen again 😂