How can I inject some spice?

[Toovanilla]

I've name changed I'm no prude but this is a bit too personal to have under my usual name.

My dh and I have a pretty good relationship, he's a great husband and a good friend, we have great fun lots of laughs he's brilliant until it comes to sex.

We have had great sex but not often, he doesn't like oral which is fine though it does make me feel a little rejected as I feel there's something wrong with me.

He won't ever ask for oral but I'm happy to give it, our sex is so boring same bloody positions same place and not frequently enough.

He will always make sure I've had an orgasm however sometimes he does things that make me feel like he has no clue what he's doing when I know he does! I've moved his hand to the better place for me, I've told him what feels good when he's found my sweet spot and I've encouraged him a lot but does he retain this information for next time?! Rarely. It's like having sex with a virgin over and over and it's ruining my enjoyment.

Sometimes I'll be enjoying what he's doing and then he'll change it to something else despite my cues indicating what he was doing was great and then I'll get annoyed and think 'what the is he doing?' and lose my orgasm.

We've talked, it changes for a little while then he reverts to type. How do I get him to be a bit more daring I feel so frustrated!

We found that working towards not having an orgasm every time was helpful. Instead of seeing us both orgasming as the ultimate and "must-have" part of sex, we decided to sack that idea and just have a laugh and also...talk. You must speak during sex....and don't take it too seriously.

If you delay orgasm, it builds and builds until a few days later when you let it go and it's much more powerful.

@AjastListick

That's a form of tantric sex. Good eh!! Perhaps OP should try it, after all what harm can it do?

When he's gagging for it, it may want to lap it up (as it where :) )

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@Ajasrlistick how do you get past the frustration of the build up if it doesn't happen?

Oven you just have to go into it open minded. When it doesn't happen, you just go about your business and enjoy the saucy feelings for longer. Flirt etc through the day....it's good actually!

With my ex-DH he lacked certain knowledge and we found that my offering to masturbate while he watched spiced things up plus he learned how I like to be touched down there. If you try putting on a "show" occasionally I guarantee he will love watching you. Works well with my new DP and I reckon I perform solo in front of him at least once a week. Works a treat.

Bloke here

You literally have to tell him and show him. Simple.

And wear suspenders. We are visual creatures.