Sex most nights **Rolls eyes**

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Me and my partner have differing sex drives. He would love to have it twice a day. Whilst I appreciate he likes my company and sexy time, there are times when I’m just not in the mood and just do it to keep him satisfied and happy.

We do not live together and see each other most days but I’m so busy with work and raising my son that sometimes I just want an early night with just me, the tv and a nice glass of wine.

I feel guilty that I feel this way and not sure how to find a balance between our differing sex drives. If I don’t have sex with him then he starts asking me for oral. Gets right on my nerves. Should I tell him?!

Do you have a happy and fulfilling relationship in other respects? Does he make you happy? Do you share interests and jokes and cuddles and holidays? Is there a future there?

If it's a yes to the above...keep shagging him. Give him what he wants. A ten-minute BJ every day is a small price for a wonderful relationship. Read the dozens of threads on here from people whose partners have lost interest and realise that you're luckier than them.

On the other hand, if the faultlines are deeper and wider than just the sex, I'd say it's a sign that you should start reconsidering the entire situation.

Sounds like a FWB to me. How often does he make these booty calls?
it also sounds like just another chore for you. Washing, ironing, cooking, hovering, BJ.

Definitely tell him what you need for you to feel happy and comfortable in the relationship. If I wasn't in the mood for sex then a blow job definitely wouldn't be something I'd be doing, I have to be in the mood for that.

There's no definite rules you just need to talk to see if you can both be happy.

My ex used to be like this and it was just one part of his whole selfish attitude, started with pestering, turned into guilt tripping then eventually causing rows accusing me of cheating cos I wasnt “up for it” 24/7. Hopefully your OH has plenty of redeeming features!

Having mismatched sex drives is definitely a problem. And I'm sad for you because sex should be enjoyable for you as well as him - and you are obviously finding that this grates which is fair enough.

I have quite a high sex drive and my last dp had a lower one so he would be happy with twice a month which was not enough for me.

I agree with noego Washing, ironing, cooking, hovering, BJ. All that bloody hovering. There’s nothing worse than sodding levitating when you’ve just finished work