Hey, just after some advice really.
DS, first baby is 10 months old. I've recently been diagnosed with arthritis and need a new hip. I'm in serious amounts of pain everyday from about 2pm until I manage to fall asleep.
I've recently stopped bf'ing DS as I couldn't manage it anymore with my hip. He's never slept through the night, I had an 84 hour labour resulting in EMCS and I had depression throughout my pregnancy.
He's a big baby and has 2/3 night feeds. We share out doing the nights now as DP has a dangerous job so can't be knackered at work. I work from home on family business 2 days a week when DS is in nursery.
For the last month, while my hip pain has been bad I've also had a change of headspace. Usually I love sex but I no have no libido at all. I think it's a combination of hip pain (v close to pelvis) and the hormone change if stopping breastfeeding and the amitriptyline that they have put me on for the pain (which I've recently stopped taking as it makes me anxious).
So there has been no sex for a month and DP is really struggling with this and it is affecting our relationship. Sex really is too painful for me - I struggle to walk and drive, can't hold myself in any position and can't put weight through my leg.
What should I do? How can DP be happy while waiting for my hip to fix (could be 2 year wait for surgery...)
Anyone got any experience of high sex drive partner coping with medically induced sex ban....
Will my headspace return eventually?