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How to 'get it back'

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badgerread · 10/09/2018 08:34

I'm 47, divorced with 2 DS 14 & 9. I've been with my current partner for 6 years, we don't live together yet, are hopefully buying together next year.

He's great, everything I could wish for in a partner. However I've.just gone off sex. Or the thought of it. Once we get into it I'm fine but it's the thought of having it. Or initiating it. I work full time and in the mornings don't want to as I worry I'll be late for work and at night I'm shattered. This has happened in previous long term relationship and they be basically gone and found it somewhere else so I know what can happen.

He's very patient but I need to sort it out I've heard the more you have it the more you want it so am thinking of just trying it every night for a week or so (trouble is I have all these thoughts and never carry them through) we do the candles, massage etc but I know he's love me to initiate it but I'm almost too nervous to now as it's been so long!

He's also grown a beard and while it looks fantastic it feels weird to kiss....

OP posts:
noego · 10/09/2018 11:36

Who would you be without all these thoughts?

badgerread · 10/09/2018 11:43

Thanks. Very insightful. And helpful.

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OldSpeclkledHen · 10/09/2018 13:53

Can you get the kids looked after and book a naughty weekend away?

Bobbiepin · 27/09/2018 22:07

No advice but a hopeful bump. I'm the same but younger and happily married otherwise. I have zero sex drive but enjoy it when I'm there (literally only in the moment). It's a real problem in my marriage but I literally never want sex.

noego · 27/09/2018 22:31

Ever thought about tantric sex??

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