Oral sex... why is it meh?

[shouldiloveoral]

So my dp has only given me oral a few times. He did it when we first got together then got for well over a year until I shaved my bits so I release that he didn't like it hairy!! He's done it once since and put such a lot of effort into it but I just didn't really feel anything. I haven't experienced it much with previous partners but again I don't ever recall t being amazing. Does anyone else feel like this about oral? Any tips for making it amazing?

I agree with you. It's ok but that's it. DP really enjoys it though so I'll keep trying

He’s doing it wrong.

It's an art

Definitely doing it wrong. Is he using his fingers as well? Are you guiding him and actually telling him when it feels best?

Erm no I don't think he does use fingers at the same time..... think it's either or...., I do make more noise when there's something I particularly like but none of it felt that great. I remember it feeling a bit better when (sorry if tmi) he was laid down and I was knelt over his face....as I was in control there was a bit more friction.... I think it's maybe because I need either a lot of friction on the clit or to be penetrated quite hard....

There's more to it than just clit friction

Yes but everyone a different and likes different things

I don't like it, on the odd occasion its been OK but it's not something I want or need. We all like different things

I felt a bit bad when he asked me if it was any good and if I wanted him to do it again!! Of course I said it was good and I did but I think he could tell that I wasn't overly bothered as it tends to be very obvious when I'm enjoying something.

I think it's better to be honest but maybe outside out of the bedroom. If you tell him you liked it then he won't do anything different.

I think he can tell that it wasn't quite doing it for me by the tone of my voice and lack of reaction. Not that I didn't like it.... there's just other stuff I like much better. Next time I might say 'that was good and I enjoyed it but I've never been a massive fan of oral. I'm up for continuing to practice though'

I'm sure he could read up on it a d different techniques if he wants it to be mindblowing

I think he has to be fair as he did take me by surprise a little bit as he did try some different positions.

Have you ever orgasmed having oral??

If not, then you are in for a pleasant surprise :)

No never... he did it again last night. Was starting to feel good and he then stopped lol

Perhaps if you had said to him 'please don't stop' he may have continued with enthusiasm :)

I've never been that into oral with previous partners, but am (very much so) with current DP - I think as said above it's a definite talent/art.

Having said that - do you enjoy giving oral? If so, maybe try turning yourself around 69 style so you can suck / play with your DP at the same time. That works really well for me, partly extra stimulation, partly because I think it helps me relax into it more.

I love it personally, it does help that my hubby is rather good with his tongue.
I do agree with other posters that fingers are a good addition and definitely try 69 (sideways is pretty good!)

I've tried 69 and always found it terrible. Found that I can concentrate on either giving or receiving so not enjoyable xx

I dont enjoy it either....i like to give blow jobs but i dont want my man going down on me.

Are you able to relax properly during it or are you thinking about it all the time during it if that makes sense?