Getting Circumcised

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Hi. Name changed as a fairly LT poster

Married to husband. Both mid 30s and relationship good and very happy. Great sex life. Try to keep things fresh and spice things up periodically especially if having a weekend away.

The worry I have...one night on a weekend away, had a lovely meal, few drinks and I had dressed in some new lingerie and in bed. We were playing around (foreplay -sorry TMI) and he asked about previous partners and what like. I admitted an ex had been circumcised and when he asked I said yes I had really liked it. I have never said I don't like how my husband is at all and whilst yes I do like circumcised it isn't an issue at all for me but now I feel like I have suggested it is.

Nothing said that weekend but a couple of months after, similar...in bed and playing and he whispered he would love to get circumcised. I said he is lovely how he is etc but he keeps saying and said he would love to be. I feel shit now as I'm sure it would never have happened if I hadn't admitted what I did and I certainly would not expect him to...bit like a guy expecting a woman to get breast enhancement.

So for feeling awful, I don't know whether to put my foot down and tell him absolutely not or what.

Any advice?

Getting circumcised as an adult is extremly painful and takes a long time to heal. unless there were medical considerations no one would do it!

I had it done a few years ago as an adult... I was having problems with the foreskin so a medical reason. Was hands down the most painful thing ever ( and that includes having my tonsils out as an adult ) and took a couple of weeks before I wasn't waking up almost crying with every nightime erection. Tell him from me, I wouldn't do it for aesthetics. Plus the sensitivity is very diminished and needs a different level and type of stimulation. Sorry for the TMI, but all relevant.

RLD

It's very easy to say you would like to be circumcised. Actuay going through with it is another thing. The thought of somebody slicing a piece of your penis off is not something most men would look forward. Would the NHS even do it for aesthetic reasons?

I guess you would have to go private. I have had it done and as above I woke up on the second night with an erection and all the stitches ripeed and everything unravelled. I wrapped it up in a bandage and went to the doctors the next morning and when I unveiled the wreckage to the nurse she looked shocked. The doctor came in and said there was nothing that could be done and it would heal on it own! Well is sort of did but it does look like I have had some sort of blender accident sometime in the past!
Tell him that and see if he is so keen. It's not like getting a tattoo or your ears pierced!

Having a circ as an adult is a very, VERY different story. Please don't let him. It's brutal and painful and @billyfivebellies says, the results can be drastically different to what you think.

I too experienced stitches coming away and a 'gaping wound' I now hate my penis and how it looks, the amount of stitches anyway shocked me and the scars they left are not pretty. Even my wife doesn't like the look of it now.

He needs to get over this. Show him these posts

Thanks for all the advice. I will talk to him if he mentions again. He would def have to go private so perhaps the cost might put him off lol

My husband had it done in his late 20s for medical reasons (probably should have been advised to have it done sooner) and it was awful. He was in so much pain for weeks. 7 weeks in total off work as he doesn’t have the opportunity to get off his feet and rest in his job, so his GP recommended being signed off. This was due to a post op infection. Think the hospital signed him off for 2 weeks initially but it didn’t heal well and he ended up on antibiotics.

It took even longer than that to return to a normal sex life. We went back to using condoms to protect the wound initially. Sex is no better or worse now that it’s healed, although it is different. I would not recommend that anyone puts themselves through that for cosmetic reasons though.

Being circumcised as an adult is very, very complicated and painful, as others have said. Plus after growing up with a foreskin it can be quite a shock to have to re-learn how to masturbate and to adjust to the new sensations during sex. My partner had it done (for medical reasons) a few years ago and I still can’t give him a blowjob because it’s just too sensitive for him. If there is no medical reason for him to have it done then he really should reconsider, I think he could very well regret it!