AIBU to expect DP to make me orgasm every time?

[CasperGLo]

Once we've started he always reaches orgasm whether it be via PIV, hand or mouth, I would never start something and then leave him hanging! AIBU to expect this reciprocated and that he also finish me off either during foreplay or afterwards (if I haven't orgasmed through penetration which is rare)? I don't really care whether oral or manual but wouldn't rather not have to do it myself! This doesn't happen and it's frustrating, I also think quite selfish. Sex is pleasurable yes, but way more pleasurable with an orgasm or am I being needy?

Seems perfectly reasonable to me, it's meant to be a mutually pleasurable experience. Why shouldn't you get your orgasm too? The question is, what do you want to do about it? You could talk to him and if he genuinely doesn't realise how selfish he's being that might be enough. You could bin him off and depending on the rest of your relationship and how big this issue is to you that might be perfectly reasonable. You could also just insist that you come first from now on, no orgasm for him until he's taken care of your needs.

No, you are not being at all unreasonable in expecting to be brought to orgasm. You are though, if you expect him to realise this unless you have spoken about it; he probably isn't telepathic, and like most men can be chronically thoughtless, so communicate with him.

Seems a reasonable expectation.

Might be worth remembering that the ‘DP’ means something completely different away from Mumsnet, particularly where sex is concerned, so your subject title may have raised an eyebrow or two!

Oops Joey, see what you mean ha!

Not unreasonable at all, depending on the pre-existing dynamic.

Plenty of women on here post that they've never had an orgasm, or hardly ever do, or it takes them ages, or it's only every now and again, or it's not the be all and end all and they just like the bonding and closeness etc.

If he has had recent experience of a woman who struggles to orgasm and has expressed mild ambivalence to orgasm, he(?) might not see it as a big problem.

Also, a lot might depend on how long it takes you to orgasm via non-PIV - if it takes a very long time, he might give up believing he's not doing it correctly?

If none of the above applies, he knows you well and just can't be bothered, then no, that's not very considerate.

Speak up!!
"Do ya stuff then pet" usually works!!

You're not being needy, I think he's being selfish.. but he maybe just needs clear direction from you so that he knows you want to finish too.

YANBU...... It's an absolute must for me.

Obviously you're not unreasonable
Do you really want to keep sleeping with such a selfish partner though?

YADNBU

My husband will tell me to stop whatever I'm doing if he thinks he's going to cum and I haven't yet.

Either I do stop as I want a turn or if I keep going and then he asks how I'd like to orgasm.

Although sometimes I let it be just for him as there are times when he does the same for me. But we always check the other isn't left wanting.