Sorry for the long message but i’m fed up. Been with my boyfriend for 7 months. When we first got together we had sex most times we were together (about 4 times a week). Naturally this decreased after the first couple of months and now it really depends but we still have a healthy sex life.
I feel like, however, we only ever have sex when he initiates it. Whenever i tell him i’m in the mood or try to start something most of the time he will ignore me, just say no or say it’s all i care about (he often says i care about sex too much and that that’s not all that matters). He tells me if i want it i need to get him in the mood but when i try he says no so i obviously stop. Sometimes he is hard but still ignores me when i mention it. For the past week i’ve been trying as it’s been a while since we have done anything but he has just dismissed me. But tonight he wanted a blowjob and i said no because i wasn’t in the mood and i have an uncomfortable retainer in. He tried to put it in me multiple times and then asked if i’d have sex with him if he ate me out first. I wasn’t interested at this point and he seems to think just because i ask sometimes that i will always want sex if he does. Now that i said no he just went to sleep. I feel like we only have sex when he wants to and that when i want it i can’t ask. It makes me feel like when he initiates it, i want to say no even if i’m in the mood and i don’t know how to solve it.