Was this rape?

[wowbutter]

A friend of mine has been discussing with me an incident that happened between her and her new partner, and it's made me feel very uneasy.
They were having sex and he finished, and she didn't. So he suggested she used a sex toy on herself while he watched. All fine so far.
Once she had orgasmed he stood up and put his erect penis in her mouth, which she didn't want. Apparently he totally surprised her as she had her eyes shut. And due to him doing this and her head being in the pillows she couldn't stop him. She tried to push him off, but he ejaculated in her mouth before she could.
She thinks it's no big deal, just one of those thing amen do, I think it's abhorrent. Is this normal, acceptable sexual etiquette now?!

I think it is vile and I suspect classed as rape. She did not consent. I and others I know have experienced similar or the same. For my part I felt distressed and deeply affected when I experienced something along those lines with a former partner.

I totally agree with you. I wonder why people are becoming so desensitised to this?

In my case with my ex I consented to various things but when mid-way he change the "activity" to one he knew I found repulsive and to which I would never consent he was changing consensual sexual intercourse to raping me. It was vile in every way a woman could imagine. I still retain the hurt.

Oh, Rosie, that's awful, I'm so sorry.

Thats horrible and he's a waste of skin.

The vast majority of my clients who want cum in mouth (cim) will ask before arranging the booking and then double check at the point of orgasm "am I ok to cum in your mouth?" and if I was to say no, I think most of them would pull out. (just going on my experience when i didn't offer it)

Personally it's something I'd enjoy and wouldn't see it as a massive deal.
With my last partner we both enjoyed this kind of thing along with a bit of resistance and would take it to "extremes" however we both knew the boundaries and would always stop if we weren't both 100% ok with it
In this case it's difficult to say, your friend seems not too bothered by it so maybe she just needs to have the discussion with her partner so they know for next time. I don't think anyone is qualified to decide what's acceptable or not in terms of the act itself as we all have different perspectives.
The way you've described it sounds like he maybe just got carried away and didn't realise she wasn't enjoying it as you said she couldn't stop him (teeth usually work well) although without being there nobody really knows.

@skoda62 are you fucking serious? Maybe try to arrange this on a thread that's not about sexual assault.

She wasn't given a chance to withhold consent for this, he basically forced himself on her when she was relatively helpless. Not OK.

I would say this amounts to sexual assault/rape.
She didn't consent end of.

You know why some people are desensitised to this? Porn. Some porn videos take things to the MAX then further and people begin to realise it is okay.

Pushing this to the max can be a scary thing to do because it then boils downs to is this person resisting as part of the boundaries pushed or do they not want to go ahead.

I would of thought he would of so sensed the difference !

Vile man

Without consent I think it is termed oral rape.

@noego yes

It depends on the couple. I wouldn't mind something like this within reason. If she's not bothered then it's not a big deal to her.