Sex Drive Desire

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Quick one me and my gf have been together for 7 years we are both 37 i'm basically a fitness fanatic with energy to burn and my sex drive and desire is through the roof.

Her drive seems to be low very low she says your not being romantic but imo you can't be romantic all the time even though she has a very demanding job sometimes u just got to have plain old raw sexual desire ie a need am i wrong ?

the other thing is when we kiss i try to passionately kiss her i can feel her being very stiff and almost pull away from me.

just don't know what to make of it all we have had a lot of problems and her daughter has caused a lot of issues between us which we have worked through.

thanks a very frustrated male.

Only she can really tell you but it sounds like you are not communicating well. Yes we do have raw sexual desire but need to feel desired and not just a sexual object. Maybe the relationship has run its course. Ask her

We have just goes round and round, she always has a go at me if its not her daughter that's the problem its my mother if its not my mother its my cleaning around the home.

Another thing she does is saying she wants to have a baby but day after or during the week she will have sunk 2 bottles of wine now doesn't alcohol kill sperm ?

I can make her feel desired all she wants but still it doesn't work i'm not used to a woman not coming onto me or instigating sex all my ex's were first to initiate sex.

Really can't get my head round it she's a very cold person and her daughter has said the same not very loving at all.

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And just to say when you have a boyfriend who has built verandah's window seats, cleaned the house for upto 4-6 hours, walked the dog, fed the dog and been taking his time out on a sat to take her to work surely she should also make me feel desired because i'm sure many men don't do that.

Well if your sex life is like this now, it is a symptom of your relationship and an indicator that it will probably only get worse. Reconcile yourself to moving on. Tell her what you are thinking if you do and at least she will understand. Don't try and find sex elsewhere and cheat

I have two suggestions

1. Kiss her slowly, and do not expect sex.
2. See a relationship counsellor

Sounds like you are wanting to hop on her bones for a quickie like a 16 year old. Why don't you slow it all down a bit and try and get her in the mood first?

Sounds like she doesn’t find you sexually attractive.