Is it relevant to tell my mum i’m sexually active?

[Fuzzyduck123]

So i’m only 16 but need advice from a mothers pov.

I have a boyfriend of about 4 months and we had sex at the very beginning of us being close because i felt ready for it (i don’t regret doing it but a part of me wishes i’d have waited a bit longer). I want to get the implant so i can have safer sex but i need advice on it. I darent bring it up to my mum because i don’t feel comfortable talking to her about personal things i’m a closed off person in general. I wouldn’t know what to say and i feel like she would judge me because when we first got together she used to try and tell me not to sleep in the same bed as him. Thoughts?

I think you should be honest with her, as she will be able to help you with the best methods of birth control

Good luck to you

It will take quite a bit of bravery on your part, but I think honesty is the best policy. Your mum will have thought about whether you are sexually active; that much is certain. I reckon that you should get your plan sorted about having a contraceptive implant before you have the talk. That way, you can show her that you are responsible. I would also like to see you have the chat with your boyfriend about exclusivity, unless you have already done that.

You seem like a sensible young woman, and I hope your mum sees you as one - best wishes.

You don't need to tell her in order to access contraception as you are already 16 - the age of consent in the UK.

Younger girls are encouraged to involve their mum or an older relative or friend when seeking contraception.

Your GP surgery or local family planning clinic would be happy to see you, with or without your mum.

Don't forget condoms are still a good idea to protect you against infections, even if you have the implant fitted. The implant is much safer than condoms against pregnancy though.

Even though you have been sleeping with your boyfriend, you can still tell him you don't want sex if you don't feel like it.

If my daughter came to me about it I would be glad she's being sensible and taking appropriate precautions. Have a look into all methods of contraception and have a talk with your doctor / clinic to decide what's best for you. Ask your mum for advice if you feel as though you want to involve her.
I found the implant messed my periods about, bad moods and I also had a nasty case of a cyst which sent me to hospital. Never had any problems since it's been removed. Everyone reacts differently so just look at risk factors etc.

Definitely still use condoms even if you get the implant.

You should protect yourself from infections.

I would hope that my daughter would be able to speak to me about it.

I never talked to my mother about contraception, both of us would have been horrified at the idea It isn't compulsory. Try Brook or a family planning clinic locally.