Has anyone taken a current or previous partner's virginity?

[foxymissroxy723]

Hi. My boyfriend is 24 and still a virgin. I am not a virgin myself, but I haven't had much experience. We are getting close to the stage where he feels ready to do it. We have done most other things except actual sex (PIV). I have been thinking about how to make it as memorable and enjoyable as possible for him. He has said he wants me to enjoy it as much as possible, and he would love to make me orgasm during sex. I am planning on bringing condoms, and lube, and trying to keep the room cool with fans so it's not boiling hot before we even start. Also thinking about whether to use candles or just leave the light on. Our phones will be switched off. Other than that, what position do you think is easiest for a virgin to do? He wants me to take control and decide what positions to use. Do you think I've missed anything or am I overthinking it?

Personally I think you’re overthinking it. If he’s ready just get on and do it. You can talk about it after, what you did/didn’t like and go from there.

Massively over thinking it I would say. I've never been in your position though. Hopefully someone can come along soon who has and can give you the advice you are looking for.

Don't make it end up like Chesil Beach!

Definately overthinking it. Surely you just go out for a nice meal, have a few drinks and see what happens. He will get performance anxiety if you plan too much.

I love the way you say "our phones will be switched off". Glorious

I did, a very long time ago obviously, he thought he was going to pass out and panicked

I lost my virginity in 1989 to another virgin. It was not mindblowing. Thankfully I kept practicing and now quite enjoy le sex.

Word of advice, go on top. That way you're in control.
He's going to have 101 things racing through his mind at the time and may not do things 'right'. Be patient and communicate.
Other than that, go for it.

Apart from any other reason not to overthink it, here's a basic one: it aint likely to last for very long! So long as you take it for what it is, a necessary first step, it might give you both momentary excitement and deepen your loving bond, intimacy. Then you'll be able to go on a potentially fantastic journey together. But in itself, it probably isn't going to be that great.

Yes don't over think it. I had a relationship with a guy who was a virgin (long time ago) but I was more experienced so knew he wouldn't last long. We took it slowly and I gave him oral sex which made him come very quickly. When it came to him going inside me he was ready very soon again but lasted a decent time. He always said how much he loved his first time! It was special for me knowing he was a virgin

What's the thing about the fans?? Getting hot and sweaty is more fun than trying to make love in a howling draft?

First ever time we were both virgins. Surely the best positions are the ones you like most? Tell him what you like and why, and also ask him what is feeling good, encourage him to communicate.