Name change for this.
This will probably be a long one so apologies.
So me and my OH have 2 children under 5.
We have zero sex life/intimacy. It's been this way since I was midway through my pregnancy with our youngest (2).
He has been diagnosed with PTSD (ex forces) and is having counselling. He has also having tests re testosterone.
I guess my problem is the total lack of intimacy, I get a peck and cuddles but that's it. He says he just has no interest at all. He assures me he still loves me and finds me attractive. I can't keep facing the constant rejection. It's not just the sex it's the closeness and emotional bond it creates.
I accept he's getting help and wants to fix things (so he says) but it's been 2 years and nothing seems to be changing. There's not even any effort or compromise.
I love this man to death but I can't live the rest of my life this way. I want to feel wanted and loved.
I know there's loads of threads about this kind of subject. I don't even know the point of writing this, just to get it off my chest really as I can't confide in anyone in real life. Everyone thinks we have this perfect relationship. He's the best dad in the world. He works hard. He's kind etc. The intimacy is the only thing ruining this.