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Tips to not become a man hater!

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idlikemoresleep · 29/05/2018 11:08

Ok so, I'm 36 with 2 kids and been divorced from their father for about 3 years now. It was my decision to split, without going into too much detail we'd turned into more like brother and sister than husband and wife and despite trying I knew I really wasn't in love with him. Everything between us now is good, he's a great dad and we co parent very well (I think!)
I think after being with him so long (14 years) in quite a dull and unromantic marriage I went searching for that "thing" that you see in films. I got with a guy who turned out to be a narcissistic bastard. An alcoholic who lied constantly, but for some reason (now beyond all comprehension) I fell for him. Finished with him a while ago although that was messy and he continued to try and drag me down afterwards. I've had a few months now on my own but I can feel myself turning into a bitter man hating Cat lady (although I haven't got a cat..... yet......) and I don't want to!
I got closeish (nothin more than flirty texts/ banter and chatting lots) to someone who I've known for a few years recently, I got the vibe that he liked me too but then he went all quiet on me and I find that he's actually seeing someone else.
Any guy that to approaches me just seems to be only after one thing and anyone that I find myself liking is either already taken or just not interested!
I really don't want to turn into one of THOSE women who hates anything with a penis but I'm heading that way Grin
Help/ advice/ tips required to give me hope that there might be some decent blokes left out there!
And don't get me wrong, I am ok on my own. Quite happy being single apart from an occasional bout of loneliness. I'm not even actively looking for anyone I'm just finding gradually that through every day life the male population is reeaaaallllllllyyyyyy annoying!

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idlikemoresleep · 29/05/2018 12:51

Bump

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maccax · 29/05/2018 14:22

And don't get me wrong, I am ok on my own. Quite happy being single apart from an occasional bout of loneliness.

Fwb?

idlikemoresleep · 29/05/2018 14:58

Hmmm had considered it although I wouldn't really know where to start?! I've got to like someone to be able to dtd and that's the part I'm struggling with! 😂
My terrible friends have tried encouraging me to have a one night stand but I honestly don't think I could do that unless I was drunk and once I'm drunk I just want a kebab and my bed.... without a man in it! 🙈......
go on say it - I'm a lost cause aren't I?!

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maccax · 29/05/2018 15:49

Aren't you forgetting it's a "friend" with benefits?!!

Always be clear, honest and upfront about what you want from your friendship and see how it works for you both.

How to meet someone?
Websites & socials. You'll just have to kiss a few frogs before you find your friend!

idlikemoresleep · 29/05/2018 16:55

Yes I suppose. I do go out quite regularly to socialise and have a relatively large proportion of single male friends but I can't see it happening with any of them so it would be a case of meeting someone new. I absolutely hate meeting people online, I've been on and off a few OLD sites but I really disliked it. I know I'm going to probably have to bite the bullet and try again with a different mindset, I swapped numbers with a couple of guys that I got chatting to online but I just began to find them really irritating so I stopped replying.
Im aware I'm being difficult 😝

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Jason118 · 29/05/2018 21:42

Not difficult, just being particular Smile

idlikemoresleep · 29/05/2018 22:35

@Jason118
Oh I was aiming for difficult 🤔😆

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