What do I need to know about threesomes?

[MushroomTree]

DP and I have been discussing it for a while and now we've found a woman to join us.

DP has had a threesome before and the other woman has had many, whereas I've had plenty of sexual partners but only one at a time so I feel a bit inexperienced in comparison to them.

What do I need to know? How does it actually work? DP wants to watch us and then I assume at some point it will move on to full sex involving him too. If he's having sex with one of us, what does the other one do?

Help! I don't want to seem clueless!

I suppose the other one hopes the other 2 dont enjoy it toooooooo much!?

Maybe get some ideas from movies though assuming you are bi I imagine being given oral sex whilst being fucked would be quite pleasurable.....

Or giving oral whilst being fucked

It sounds like you have thought it through but just keep in mind jumping from fantasy and talking to reality is a big jump! I'm happily married and post on Mumsnet periodically, with a great life, husband kids etc. My friends would be gobsmacked if they knew that before I married I had a foursome on holiday (with the ex boyfriend). Went on holiday with another couple, shared a villa and some great and also boozy days and nights. One afternoon we had come in from the pool, wine etc and some daft card games and ended up sort of strip poker which, well resulted in a foursome in the same room. Loads of nerves in my part despite the wine, and some pangs of jealousy seeing bf with other woman..but also amazed at how aroused he was at it all watching me. Some four way playing as well

I look back and still arouses me to think about it. I wouldn't repeat it though, especially in a solid relationship or marriage...and no I haven't confessed to my husband either. I would think twice before introducing it to your marriage and maybe keep it as a fantasy. Good luck if you do

Don't forget to change the condoms.

Never someone you know, it makes things harder

Watch some porn and get some ideas but there's lots you can do, so you will not be left out - it's great fun.

For example while he's with the other woman lick his balls or sit on his face.

But he most important thing is he has to reciprocate and and indulge you with two guys and make sure you do that first before he has the two gal thing !

just make sure you are ready for seeing him with the other woman. i had a few pangs when saw my OH enter her...but yes it helps if you are joining when when he is doing things with her and make sure he switches back and forth so no one is left out. But yes, agree with Debs and make sure he is up for reciprocating and he is ok with you having two guys together...mind blowing experience

Don't assume anything. Make sure everything is agreed in advance.
If there is anything you definitely don't want to happen, it needs to be clear to all of you.
Check with each other throughout that you are all happy.
Don't feel pressured into doing anything you feel uncomfortable about.
Everyone should feel able to call a halt at any time.

Once that is established - have fun

Condoms, relax, you can take a breather sometimes, let it run its course and most importantly. have fun.

Definitely change condoms and clean toys if between uses if they’re being shared...

How did you find someone to do it with?

At some point, one of you will get an arse in the face... just relax and dont try and force anything. Lots of touching and just go with the flow.

The important thing is to trust and agree on boundary before hand. Respect each other and the other person. When one person is unsure or had enough it stops there and then!

It can be quite difficult to see your husband with someone else but if you can get past the initial jealousy its quite a turn on. Nobody should ever be left out, lots of touching and kissing while the deed is happening is fun.

Each to their own but think very carefully before you do this.
It will be very difficult to turn back the clock.