Tonight is the second time recently my husband has had the courage to bring up the subject of sex. We have had sex once this year. That was the first time since our youngest was born 7 months ago. It's all me. I have zero interest. Youngest was a terrible sleeper for first four months to the point we did "shifts" on the couch with him at night to get a few hours solid each. But last three months I have no excuses other than tiredness. I am on antidepressants for PND (feel fine now!) and also have thyroid issues brought on by baby no. 2. I love my husband dearly. I fancy him. I WANT to be more intimate. But come 8pm I just want to collapse. I know I'm being selfish. I know I'm completely at fault. My husband works full time (I'm still on maternity leave). We are completely 50/50 with both kids and housework when he's off. I nap with my eldest most days when he's off. He is actually pretty much the perfect husband. The only gripe I have is the amount of time he spends on his mobile phone and doesn't listen to me or eldest kid (who is 2.5) when we are talking. He's been a bit stressy with work and home stuff recently too. But can't imagine hardly having sex is helping his stress levels. I want to want it! So why don't I!! I've read that thyroid level can affect libido. Things weren't immediately amazing sex-wise after first born but they got back on track quicker than this time! Maybe only had sex once a week or so but better than once every 7 months! I just feel such a bad wife. Any tips? Please no awful comments. I feel enormous guilt.