I just want to me fucked!!!

[PermanentlyDisappointed]

Apparently that’s too much to ask.

Married pushing on 20 years and still sex lasts 5 mins in total. Beginning to end.

It’s always been like this and is seriously beginning to piss me off now. Especially as I get older I’ve found that vaginal penetration does it more for me than clitoral.

Last night I sat on DH for 2 minutes. A minute of that he had already orgasmed. I nearly screamed “it’s not fair!!”. He then proceeded to try and make me orgasm by putting his finger in the wrong place!!! ARGGHHHH!!

How can I tell him without causing an argument or too much upset? And any suggestions how to fix it?

Has this not been posted before?

I get your frustration but also realise that he will probably feel pretty shameful and embarrassed about this also. It's unlikely he's doing it deliberately to piss you off.

There's plenty on the market to help prolong but he might need some counseling too (provided he wants to)

If you've been married for 20 years, you should be able to discuss this, and he should consider your feelings/satisfaction and try and do something about it.

Many of us guys give more satisfaction second time round!.......let him cum with some fun ( oral, hand you choose! ) and after a few minutes, maybe after a chat about anything really, ( taking his mind off sex, but nothing too heavy!) just begin to stroke and play with him, be suggestive and sensual.....I'd lay money he'll get hard for you again and last much longer....
Good luck...

Since you've been married for 20 years you both should be prepared to put some time and effort into changing this but it is likely to take quite a long time to retrain after 20+ years of quickie sex.
I have read there's a drug called Dapoxetine which delays ejaculation and maybe could be used with my suggestions below.
You should try edging your DH - where he builds up to a climax but does not ejaculate, stop for a short period then go again. You need to do this for at least ten minutes i.e. for at least as long as you take to orgasm, use some oil/lube. He has to agree to do this every time, no quickies. Kegels are also supposed to be good at helping him delay things plus relaxing and controlling his breathing.
Show him the right place to put his finger and help him get you to orgasm.
Avoid positions like missionary where his willy is fully going in and out as it's too much stimulation. You on top just rocking (but you said your clitoris no longer does it for you:-(
good luck

Hello everyone, thank you all for your valuable input and advice. Sorry I've been quiet - been a manic few days.

ThisIsMyOtherUsername not by me. I can't imagine it's unique problem though. Is it????

I'm not sure he does feel embarrassed to be honest. I guess that's my fault for letting it go on for so long.

We had DCs who were awful sleepers which did mean we were both far less bothered about sex for a few years and when it did happen I was glad for it to done with asap. But they're older now so we should be able to have more time for each other.

poster moviesgirl thanks, I'll try what you suggested. I think maybe combining it with a night away might help.

I don’t think moviesgirl’s suggestion of edging is what you need to be honest. Edging brings you to the brink, but once man has done that once, he’s in a very heightened sexual sensitivity and is unlikely to be able to give you the prolonged enthusiastic shagging (that it sounds like you’re after) without stopping after 30 seconds to let the sensitivity subside agains. And I imagine that this would be frustrating!

Best suggestion is to give him a hand job (to orgasm) as foreplay, then get him ready for round 2 as the main event 10 minutes later.

Mmm. Round 2 (or 3) hasn’t seemed to appeal to DH since we were very young.

Would a hand/blow job in the morning or afternoon then the main event in the morning possibly have the same effect, do you think?

The problem is, it is the full, maximum penetration I’m after. So ‘tip teasing’ is only going to get him going and leave me frustrated.

Is this something cockrings are any good for?

OP - get on google and look up techniques to address premature ejaculation - and stop fannying around!! Literally lol

Thanks Dad. Appreciate the pep talk!!

Your starter for ten!
m.youtube.com/watch?v=GDc22LaIEsA

Would a hand/blow job in the morning or afternoon then the main event in the morning possibly have the same effect, do you think?

It certainly wouldn’t do any harm. The reason I suggested a hand-job as a warm up is that, although having someone give you any sort of orgasm feels lovely, I tend not to feel fully satisfied until I’ve orgasmed from penetrative sex, so I’m usuallu ready to go again within 5-10 mins. That’s a personal thing though, and I imagine many men are different.

Don’t think a cock ring would help in this case. They do help give incredible rock hard erections, but they don’t densisitise or anything.

Round 2 (or 3) hasn’t seemed to appeal to DH since we were very young

Probably because he can get what he wants, as he is, without having to do very much work! Round 2 might mean he actually has to work for it.

Separate to cock rings, you could also try rings or weights that draw his testicles away from the body. This can significantly reduce the ability to cum (but not eradicate it entirely) in many men as they get pulled towards the body just before orgasm.