Erectile dysfunction

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Have a new partner. Very lovely and excellent lover.
He had spinal surgery years ago and this has left him with persistent ED which is increasing because of his age ( 52).
He never leaves me unsatisfied...and I know I'm being churlish...but I dont know if I can adapt to a love life without penetration. All my sexual conditioning leads me to be aroused by a hard cock and I like the mutual release of a partners orgasm. As neither of these feature much in our sex life...my question is this. What has worked..or been a waste of time for other couples? His cause is physical ( not emotional) and we'd like to see if we can improve things together. There is so much out there on the net from diet to pumps to acupuncture to herbs or pills. Come on Mumsnetters...What has really made the difference for you and your partners. All positive advice please. There is hope !

It's a very new relationship sexually. I think he has just accepted it. We are starting from scratch . A friend suggested he get his gp to do a testosterone test. Trying diet improvement too. Cialis sounds like a better choice than viagra...but not got that far yet.

I presume the pump will help get him hard...it's keeping the erection ..

Not much to offer, but the GP definitely seems the way forward for something which is a physical problem. Also focus on having the best sex you can without standard intercourse. There's lots to be getting on with while he seeks advice/treatment.

A spinal problem has caused me to suffer with ED too, it's quite emasculating and a source of humour all to often so not an easy subject to deal with.

However both viagra and cialis (available generically as sildenafil and tadalafil) are, in my case, both very effective. Cialis is my preference as it gives a much greater window of opportunity so it's more relaxed but viagra is IME slightly more effective.

I was won over after 1st usage TBH and have never looked back but prior to that I was quite anxious about the whole subject.

Thanks. We are at that point in our discussions now, so your experience is really helpful, thankyou x

Thanks..I'm very lucky..he is an incredibly generous lover and never leaves my unsatisfied...but we'd both like penetration to feature as well, hence my post.