How to keep Sex life interesting when ttc??

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Posted this in the conception forum but didn’t get much of a response! Hoping I will have better luck here...

Just that really. We’ve been trying for a long time. If we weren’t ttc I don’t think we would have sex very often. We are attracted to each other and of course love each other but our sex life is a little less than passionate as of late. This isn’t helped by ttc, we have an evening routine which we are both finding....well a bit of a snooze fest! He says he doesn’t like to plan it and wants to be more spontaneous but how can it be when we are ttc? Any advise?

How do you keep your sex life interesting when ttc? Or just generally...how do we get out of this boring rut?x

I think I've read you need to have sex every 2 days when ttc. DH and I found this meant we were holding off sex when we wanted it and sometimes doing ut when we didn't (pre baby we dtd 3 or 4 times most weeks but he works away 1/2 of month). In the end we ignored every 2 days advice and just dtd whenever we wanted so a few times a week. It took 10 months for us to conceive. I would advise making the most of having sex when, where and how you like, as we are finding we cannot be spontaneous (or very loud!) now our little one is here and we're sharing our room. Goid luck ttc.

Also by boring do you mean sex is predictable?

You can use predictor sticks to discover when you are fertile. Have your frequent sex then (we dtd twice daily for a couple of days) and enjoy spontaneous sex the rest of the month. It worked quickly for us.

They're called Clear blue fertility indicator sticks, I think.

@filou87 yes predictable. We go to bed, have a quickie missionary style and then go to sleep. We do use ovulation sticks so there are times when we know we have to lol but the rest of the time he doesn’t initiate it at all it always has to be me.

I recently had a miscarriage and it took me a little while to get over it but we’ve talked about it recently and no need to tip toe round me about sex. But he was like that before...just doesn’t initiate it? But then says he wants to be more spontaneous. If I initiate it then sometimes he’s just like ummm I’m not really in the mood. Feel a bit confused and not really sure where to go from here! X

Sorry I see that I missed the point of your post. I think it's true that ttc can drain some of the excitement from sex. Used he to be more adventurous? What about sex in the morning? No excuses about being too tired! Suppose you jump on top of him?