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Folkypunkgirll · 24/03/2018 23:14

Okay this isn’t about sex exactly but didn’t know quite where to post this. My partner of three months was staying over last weekend, he has a back problem at the mo which means he finds it hard to twist and reach his bottom, this is relevant!
He was also constipated and uncomfortable and he asked me to use my finger and insert it into his anus to try and relieve his constipation as he can’t currently do this himself.
I quite simply was dumbstruck, it isn’t something I have ever thought of as being part of being someone’s girlfriend. I’m nearly 50 and not naive yet this did shock me.
At the time I think he rambled on about it all and I eventually said it’s not something I was comfortable doing. It has made me question if I want to go on seeing him. Apparently according to him I am over reacting and it is probably all to do with sexual abuse I experienced when I was a child.....it isn’t!!
So would this bother you? In my mind it was really overstepping the mark and would have put me the role of a carer to him, rather than his romantic partner. Not what I want!!

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Koala72 · 24/03/2018 23:24

That is completely revolting and I would not want him.

thumpingrug · 25/03/2018 02:12

Wow! Been married 25 years and Im not sure i would feel comfortable even now doing this in a non-sexual way. I think your reaction after 3 months is perfectly understandable and its your chap thats is out of order. I also occasionally suffer with a bad back and take codeine which is know to cause constipation. Im happy to let nature take its course when it chooses to rather than hurry things along. No way I would ask someone else to dive in.

Earthmover · 25/03/2018 04:59

Anyone that tries to trick another into doing things to their bum by lying is a pervert.
To then try and turn it on them when they say they are uncomfortable with makes them a not very nice person.
Bad combination. I'd be wary tbh.

UndomesticHousewife · 25/03/2018 17:09

I’ve been with dh for nearly 20 years and there’s no way I’m sticking my finger up his bum to get shit out. I might insert a suppository for him but only because I’ve been with him so long!

Huntinginthedark · 25/03/2018 21:03

He needs to see a doctor ASAP

moonmaker · 25/03/2018 22:13

He is using your previous history of abuse to bully you into sex acts.
Get rid .

NightTerrier · 26/03/2018 15:24

Can't he just take a normal laxative like anyone else would do?

Folkypunkgirll · 26/03/2018 17:40

Yeah well he will be doing that, relationship is over as combined with other things this has helped me see we aren’t compatible and he is really quite bullying and not very nice!

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BakedBeans47 · 27/03/2018 20:56

Oh Jesus fuck that is grim. I’ve been with my husband over 20 years and would tell him to fuck off if he asked me to unbung him like this

Prictoriafeckam · 28/03/2018 19:46

In time he would be accusing you of picking holes...

newday2016 · 28/03/2018 21:18

OP, that is grim.

Medication must be the way to go.

thumpingrug · 28/03/2018 22:29

you made the right decision.

grant10 · 31/03/2018 07:01

Tell him to use his own fucking finger! (Excuse the pun)

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