Partner watching adventurous porn. But has vanilla sex with me.

[Chasingstars88]

Just that. Would you be unhappy?

I'm not a prude and would try anything. I won't say I like him watching porn because it's not for me. But I'm more upset at the content and the fact he won't even try that with me.

I've tried sexting, initation... You name it. He just goes shy whenever I try anything.

But I'm bored of the bend of stuff.

How would you approach this. It makes me feel unattractive and I'm not unattractive. (At the risk of sounding big headed 😂)

P.s he never used to be shy.. we did it everywhere and anywhere all the time!

Can you try watching it together, maybe in bed and blend it in with doing stuff? ..perhaps be a bit more dominant and tell him what you want. My experience is if I tell him to do something to me, that isn't the norm it really arouses him but being turned on in the first place helps:)

Honestly I couldn't it's not me, I have a jealous streak and it doesn't sit right with me. I know people don't mind and others do.
But the other suggestion I'll try.

Good for you..strange when you did stuff before but from reading other posts porn can have that effect. Suspect if you both have a couple of wines and you tell him what to do with some dirty talk....if he doesn't respond...not sure what would work lol

He may be embarrassed about wanting to try the stuff he likes watching in porn if it’s a bit different. Maybe suggest some of the stuff that you’d like to do that’s a bit deviant so he’ll feel more comfortable about opening up about stuff he’d like to do.

@Chasingstars88 : I use porn but that's because my wife doesn't want sex with me. You DO want sex with your partner, and it sounds like you have a good sex life, plus you don't seem keen on the porn.... so he needs to stop watching it!

I swear, if I had a half-decent sex life a) I'd literally never even think about another woman and b) wouldn't go near porn.

He needs to give his head a shake!