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Sex clubs

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Change9944 · 13/03/2018 16:31

Does anyone have any experience or advice about visiting sex clubs.
Me and dh want to be watched and watch, neither of us want to have sex with other partners, are these places where you in control. No means no?
I've done a lot of reading up and read message boards, but don't really want to post and be inundated with Pervy messages,which normally happens on those type of sites.
Just wondering if anyone had any experience or advice.

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MickHucknallspinkpancakes · 14/03/2018 14:43

Looked into it op. Never plucked up the courage.

Saw a club in a nearby city where there was a series of small rooms you could book and by your invite only, with mirror windows. So you could play safely - alone or with guests and you would be watched from the window, but wouldn't see the viewers.

And they couldn't disturb you or get involved.

Seemed like a good safe distance to begin for me.

Something like that?

Try Adulthub they have chats about different UK clubs iirc.

You could also go private and meet a couple at home. Many don't swap just watch and play together.

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Change9944 · 14/03/2018 15:33

Hi thanks, that sounds exactly what were after. Where was that club if you don't mind me asking.

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MickHucknallspinkpancakes · 14/03/2018 16:43

Not in the UK sorry OP.

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Change9944 · 14/03/2018 17:00

Damn !
I'll have a look at that site.
Thanks

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maccax · 14/03/2018 19:02

Change 9944,
There are some lovely clubs, large and small, around.
Sounds like you want to "soft swing" and that's totally ok.
Swing clubs can be lovely places to chat and relax, do your own thing, be respected and if you like to watch or be watched, I'm sure you'll find that too!

Pfftkids · 14/03/2018 20:37

You don't need to have sex with anyone else or even have sex at all. You can go there and if you feel comfortable have sex with your husband in an open room. Some people will watch and some might ask if they can join in and no means no, you're the one that decides what happens. Its women that have the final decision

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Change9944 · 14/03/2018 20:57

Thank you.
It does appear that soft swinging is the name for what were after.
I'm guessing most people are nervous to start?

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Change9944 · 14/03/2018 21:00

Pfft that's really put my mind at rest.
I suppose everyone is different and has different expectations. It just feels like a club is a safe space to experiment

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MissLead · 14/03/2018 21:55

Change can you inbox me pls

yorkiebarker · 22/03/2018 11:29

Are you in London. If so, I would recommend Le Boudoir. It is very classy and relaxed, and it has private and public rooms. It can be a very erotic experience.

Jason118 · 22/03/2018 21:06

I thought the title was for a new S&M toyGrinGrin

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Change9944 · 23/03/2018 23:45

Hi Yorkie no I'm not in London.
Ive spent time looking at clubs local to me and then thought what if we bump into someone we know lol.
But London is too far Grin

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maccax · 25/03/2018 15:10

OP,
Whilst "fabswingers.com" isn't the best swinging site out there, it does have a good club review section.
Have a look around your area and see what interests you.
x

Goldenbug · 25/03/2018 21:32

You'll find that people really are considerate of others in a 'respectable' club. You may have lots of things suggested to you, but a quick "no thanks" will be the end of it.

I hear.

What big city are you close to?

extraterrestrial7 · 27/03/2018 17:21

Sorry to barge in but has anyone ever been to one of the killing kittens parties? Thinking of taking the plunge but would love to hear from anyone who's been to one.

Wonkydonkey44 · 27/03/2018 17:58

I’ve been to a club in Sheffield , one in Manchester and one in Paris 😊

extraterrestrial7 · 27/03/2018 18:18

How were they wonkey? Did the one in Paris differ much from the U.K.?

Wonkydonkey44 · 28/03/2018 08:01

THe one in paris was more up market but I was left with the impression some girls were earning money if u get my drift . X

MickHucknallspinkpancakes · 28/03/2018 11:56

They often have a few working patrons at clubs - I guess incase the female numbers are low.

Some clubs allow singles in and they tend to be completely inundated by men, which can make the atmosphere a bit more charged.

mbwoy84 · 08/04/2018 10:42

There’s a very good one in the Birmingham area...

MMmomDD · 13/04/2018 00:50

Friends have gone to Killing Kittens parties - and only good reviews.
Respectable, and very safe - men aren’t allowed to approach women unless women initiate contact, etc.

Also their website has a functionality to search for other couples, or smaller private parties.

HingleMcCringleberry · 13/04/2018 17:24

We’re like you Change, we just want the extra frisson of doing something slightly illicit, but aren’t interested in having anyone join in.

yorkie thanks for the suggestion of Le Boudoir, we’ve signed up to go in a couple of months. Even if we chicken out on the night and don’t go in, I have to say the sex we’ve been having the last few weeks just talking about it and imagining what it might be like, has already made the whole thing worthwhile, so thanks again!

PussGirl · 15/04/2018 10:49

I've been to a club in Manchester but this was many years ago - no idea if it's still open & I can't remember the name. I went three or four times with my then husband.

Anything was possible from just using small rooms, to being watched, to watching others, to using a big room with other people in there as well, to having them join in. There was no pressure to do anything you were uncomfortable with.

Some people just wandered about in sexy underwear & didn't have sex, some wore rubber / fetish wear.

An interesting experience but I'd not do it again!

Motherofpooch · 20/04/2018 22:22

Sex clubs are just like any other in regards to consent. There are many couples who go to watch and get it on together /be watched. If someone is cheeky enough to try and touch then you can smack them away etc. Usually sex clubs are.more likely to be clear about consent. X

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