Will my sex drive come back?

[mama0got0moves]

I'd love to hear from mums out there who lost their sex drive after having a baby. Particularly if you suffered from PND.

My DS will be 9 months soon and my DP and I have not had sex since I was pregnant. And even then only a few times. I'm currently taking meds for PND (Sertraline) which I know affects your libido. And I'm still breastfeeding and not yet had a period - which someone else told me lowers your sex drive.

My DP is incredibly understanding and isn't pressuring me. But it's like this little grey cloud hanging over us. We used to have an amazing sex life and even when we weren't having sex were still intimate and close. Now we hardly touch each other. Perhaps a quick kiss goodnight or hello. But nothing sexy. I'm so scared that deep down I don't fancy DP anymore even though I know I love him to bits and would never want to leave him.

I feel like I just need a bit of hope that this is just a phase and things will change once I come off the meds and DS weans.

What you're going through is pretty normal- even for women that didn't have PND.

It may or may not come back, all you can do is keep the communication lines open and maybe consider speaking to a GP about your feelings.

When DD was little I couldn't bear anyone touching me as I was just sick fed up of having someone always clinging to me. It takes a while to get back to your old self.

I never had PND but my sex drive went after having my DD. She's 10 months now and it's slowly coming back.

It happens in time so don't worry too much