Never orgasmed with a partner

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Am I the only one? On another thread people have mentioned about multiple orgasms and I’ve never even had an orgasm with a partner

Am I a freak? Don’t wish to hear any tips or tales etc , ain’t a perv.

What makes you think I don’t wax already Not?

So do you? Honestly it was a game changer for me.

Yup. Doesn’t make any difference to me and I cannot stand oral anyway.

I'm currently in my first real relationship with a man (we've been together for a year and 4 months so far), and he has never made me climax/orgasm from penetration (I've never told him this). He makes me climax from oral sex, but just not yet from penetration. Prior to him, I had a history of dating women and where the sex was strictly based on clitoral stimulation, I feel I might have gotten used to that. Saying that, a guy I was sexually involved with before my current partner made me climax from penetration TWICE, and I think it was based on what was going on inside my head during the sex (I think the mind has a lot to do with it - it must do). My ex girlfriend had just cheated on me and treated me really quite badly, so I was met with heartbreak and low self-esteem. The guy I was sexually involved with made me feel worthy again - sexy, attractive, interesting, lovable etc. During the sex, feeling desired so strongly (after my ex had JUST made me feel the opposite) was a huge turn on, despite the fact that I wasn't all that attracted to him or interested in him outside of the sex. The sex was serving a self-esteem purpose, and that became the 'kink' which made me climax.

... I don't think my current partner makes me feel as sexy, desired, admired, lusted after etc as the guy I was sexually involved with did, and this creates a kind of mental barrier. It seems that I'm really turned on by feeling those things, and when I'm not really made to feel those things during penetrative sex, it's really hard to achieve an orgasm (in comparison, it's quite easy to achieve an organism from oral sex with me, so I don't need all of that).

Just popping back to report (if interested!) that with a bullet I did manage to come in a different position (on my back). This is really an unbelievable breakthrough for me after 38 years.

Fission I know you said you didn't want tricks and techniques but I'm going to go ahead anyway because it's an anonymous forum (says she who is completely identifiable by now if anybody cared). You sound quite low about it all on these threads. I have often felt that, like I have something missing that other women don't, and that my partners are missing out too. I think we have to try and let go of that. Our bodies do what they do, they are OK the way they are. However, I would ask whether you mean you literally feel nothing when you use a vibrator (as in you can't tell whether it's there or not) or that it's a neutral sensation like leaning against something, i.e. no pleasure and nothing sexual, or that it's actively unpleasant. Maybe see if there is an area where it feels even 'quite nice' such as - I don't know - your neck, your inner thigh? Anywhere really. From the experiments I have tried I have found that lube REALLY helps, that starting indirect is good but in fact I got a lot more direct than I expected with time, that exploring inside myself while I was trying taught me that I seem to bear down when I am very aroused and that this is quite likely to make me 'release air' which I don't like, and that I seem to have a 'thing' about avoiding releasing fluid - like a lot of women I have a low-level fear of weeing at orgasm. A towel under me seemed to help that. The number of mental barriers to it all really throws me and I think is something a lot of men struggle to understand.

Lesbians don't have this problem. Trust me

Seriously though, some men just don't get how a woman needs to be touched in order to orgasm, so they need more guidance. I'm not saying all men! I very much doubt it's something to do with you anyway. I mean physically.

I've never found a man who can touch my clitoris in exactly the way I like & I really need clitoral stimulation in order to come properly.

Having said that, the other night my boyfriend used a G-spot curved dildo on me &, once I'd got past the rather off-putting "needing to wee" initial sensation, I had an amazing orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone

Hi,

I have the same issue but can orgasm on my own. But I felt like I was almost about to with my new partner.
I think he realized how to get me too aswell.