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LostInSpaceAndTime · 21/01/2018 14:15

I don't really know who to talk to about this and whether I'm being over sensitive.

DP and I haven't had sex for a few weeks. The reason for this is because I'm pregnant and due to have an abortion on Tuesday and I haven't felt in the mood for it.

He has quite a high sex drive, so I know he's felt a little bit rejected.

He's been on nights the past few days and was in bed today. I've had DD to look after but I've missed him and felt like I wanted to be close to him.

So I put her down for her nap and got in bed with him. I made it clear I wanted him. We had sex.

The problem was that he seemed so angry, like he wanted to hurt me. Very different from normal and considering what is going on. He was very dominant, hair pulling, slapping, etc. At the end I just grabbed my clothes and left the room and he went back to bed.

I wanted to feel intimate but instead I just feel a bit...I don't know. The look in his eyes was just so angry.

Not sure why I'm posting but I just feel shell shocked I guess.

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HandbagCrazy · 21/01/2018 17:17

That sounds awful OP. Are you ok? Thanks

Do you think it's related to the pregnancy? Is he angry about it / blame you for it?

It's hard to help much without more of an idea of the dynamics in your relationship as you obviously know him better than we can. What is he like usually? How long have you been together? Can you talk to him about it?

LostInSpaceAndTime · 21/01/2018 19:06

I'm OK.

Just feel a bit weird about it.

We have had rough sex in the past, so we're no strangers to it, but it just felt so wrong in the context of the situation. I wanted tenderness and love and felt I was met with violence and anger.

I'm not sure if he just went with what he felt like or there is some underlying anger/resentment towards our situation. I know if he were me he'd be carrying on with the pregnancy, but he has been relatively supportive of the decision and knows now isn't the right time for another child.

It made me uncomfortable

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Mimsy123 · 23/01/2018 19:19

Really, you need to speak with him about it. There’s no point in just guessing what the issue is.

luxed · 25/01/2018 01:15

Hope you are ok?

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