DP says he's bored sexually

[Thedogdaysareover10]

I'll try not to drip feed. He's 30 I'm 25. 1 DS 18 weeks preg with 2nd. DP mentioned he was bored sexually before we TTC but not really made a fuss but now he's basically saying he will walk if something doesnt change says he is too young to have 2.4 in bed every other day predictive sex - I get it I do and I don't want that either but he expects me to dress up or "think out the box"at least once a week and I just don't want too. Our relationship has been abit shit for a abit a rocky patch and it's making me not want to try??

It hurt me so much when he said he is bored sexually, even though he says our sex is amazing he wants me to be more spontaneous and think out the box but I can't seem to get into that frame of mind please can you all give me some tips and help on how I can be what apparently I used to be??

I do dress up occasionally we have done anal but it killed me I suck him off he ties me up done soft roleplay he has peed on me had sex in car sex outside... how can it get better for him??

Thanks x

No idea why that happened twice

He's a massive prick.

I too have endometriosis and sex can be painful and difficult at times, plus the treatments mess with my sex drive badly. We barely had sex when I was pregnant as I felt like shit and I didn't have a toddler to deal with - if my DH spoke to me like this when I was trying to grow / care for his kids he'd be out in his ass.

I'd tell him he's welcome to abandon his partner and children to go and find more adventurous sex than he's already having. Seriously, best of luck with that.

I'd bet every penny that I have that this guy has a porn problem. This constant seeking of novelty to the point where he doesn't know what he wants, he just wants something "different" is a classic sign.

He sounds an utter twat, personally I'd fuck him off. He is putting it all on you, what has he done to give you more satisfaction? Fuck all
He isn't worth the headspace you are giving him, he really isn't.
Do me a favour though before you dump him-make sure you piss on him, that would be quite satisfying I would imagine...

Haha love the above post! Seriously op get rid. He will bring you down. Best of luck

Op my lovely this isn't a sex life problem.

He sounds absolutely horrible and sex is just one more area he is using to control and abuse you.

My advice is move this thread or start a new one in relationships because there are more people about there to help.

Oh and for comparison.

Dp and I are in love he and I just feel grateful that we are lucky enough to get to have sex with the other anything quirky/kinky/unusual over and above that is a lovely bonus! He has never ever made me feel like I'm not enough for him or that he is bored even when (a long time ago now) for a year I wouldn't let him touch me (depression) he just held my hand or cuddled me or gave me a peck on the lips when I let him and that was enough. It also never entered my head to make him feel bad when he had a bit of a blip for a while, I love all of him sex is just one part of a bigger picture.

This is such a sad thread.

He's 'bored' after only a year and you're having sex whilst in pain, and pregnant but having to do it in cars during the winter and be wee'd on to stop him from moaning at you. I actually feel worried for you in the immediate postpartum stage, especially after a traumatic birth or section.

Yes move this to relationships. You need to hear from more people that this man isn't going to get any better. He's kicked off that you've worn lipstick to visit a relative in Hosp? The only reason he would be like that is because he knows he's a sex predator and he's judging others by his own standards.

I wouldn't trust this man one little bit.

Jesus fuck he sounds appalling

Tell him to walk then, you’re well rid of this massive arsehole x