Bj

[DaisyRaine90]

Never had any issues before but don’t seem to be able to satisfy DP with a BJ

What am I doing wrong?

Not to sound goady OP but shouldn't you be asking him?

Ask him what he would like you to do,or show you

I have but also wanted to see if there were any other tips

Eg. How not to gag 😹

Say what you are doing and then I/we could maybe advice.

Maybe he just doesn't enjoy oral sex.

You don’t need to try to fit it all in your mouth.

Good contact around the top and put your hand on the base. That should help with the gagging.

NO TEETH.

Some men like teeth

Some like a humming gob as well.

Use your hands too. Like a lot. Work the shaft with your hands whilst using your lips and tongue around the top.

Essentially a good old wank with the added tongue/mouth action. Don't keep changing rhythm when you want him to cum either

If you’ve never had issues before then maybe your dp likes it differently.

In which case it would be better to ask him.

It just takes ages and I get jaw lock 🙄

I have only made him cum that way once 😔

Otherwise our sex life is good, but blob week I worry the hand action will get boring for him

Blob week?! Do people really say this? Urghhh

Experiment with positions. Him sitting in an arm chair and you on cushions on the floor is optimum for comfort. Plus it means you can pin them down with elbows. Use your hand like you’re wanking at the same time with the other around the base. Shortens the time.

You are better off asking him though, he may just be stringing it out.

Or I'm sure he won't explode if he doesn't get any during "blob week".

Alternatively you can still have sex during the "blob" you know?

Probably nothing per se. Maybe literally different strokes for different folks. The technique you do it may have worked of others but not him. Maybe he not that into it. Or what I would probably say it could be more to do with how aroused he is mentally, how turned on he is in his imagination. It maybe be less a mater of technique and more a mater of finding the other physical and mental buttons. I know if I am super turned on phycolically and totally in the zone the technique would matter little. Maybe to sex is getting to know him better in the bedroom and what really pushes his pycholical buttons. That takes time, true sexual honesty and feeling tittle comfortable with each other without fear of judgment.

God I should proof read these before posting but hopefully the above is understandable

Do you enjoy it? I don't believe anyone can give you a failsafe method that works on every bloke, but if you enjoy it and aren't just fulfilling an obligation so to speak then in my experience, hes more likely to enjoy it. I think its all about paying attention to the reaction your getting to whatever you're doing, the subtle pulses, slight rush of blood, the sounds, the changes in their breathing, the movement of their body - roll of the hips, tension in the leg muscles, even the little goosebumps that make thier leg hair stand on end...observation. what are you doing & what effect is it having is all the technique you need. When you listen to your man's reactions, you'll quickly figure out how to make it happen for you both. It helps if he's happy to talk too...get him to tell you when it feels good, just like women are encouraged to tell the guys how we like it, when we say "its just not great". Have fun :)

Get your neighbour to do it for him and have a nice cuppa instead.

Yeah I enjoy that it makes him happy but not my sore jaw and overly sensitive gag reflex 😂

Breathe through your nose only to help with the gag reflex (you can practice with a toothbrush lol) but gag reflex is something you build up. Also try swirling your tongue around his tip. Have you paid attention to the area between his balls & arse? Most guys love that - use your hands on his dick while you’re doing it. If you’re getting lockjaw it means you’re spending too much time just straight up & down with it in your mouth. Variation will help.

*Phoenixmama
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It doesn’t make sense to me. It always takes 40-45mins whereas with previous partners it’s been 5-10 minutes.

He did tell me sometimes he holds off on purpose because he’s enjoying it so much 🙄

Sometimes I wonder if we are just orally incompatible. He’s only made me cum twice with his mouth 😂

He’s a trier though so I feel I should put the effort in to. Otherwise our sex life is excellent. Just the oral 🙄

45min, hmmmm
Anybody would get a jaw lock.

For me - if starts getting a little longer and/or I get tired - I just grab his hand and make him help me.
He can get the right rythm with his hand (while you can get some pointers on how he likes it)
And while he is doing that - you can touch/lick around - there are many places....

Also - you shouldn’t feel that you need to return the favour in exactly the same way - which it sounds a little like what you are doing.
And - does it really matter if you make him come in a certain way or not?
As long as you have satisfying sex in general - specific positions don’t really matter.

*Josuk
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I have realised my hand 🤚 does the job better this week which is a relief

I should tell him to sod off and DIY sometimes though 😂

Maybe you need to cup his balls as you suck,gently massage them with your spare hand. As things hot up, gently massage his perineum,if his cock stiffens even more, its working,,finally, and maybe with some lube, tease his hole and maybe massage his prostate, if he doesnt shoot, check for pulse..