Desperately need advice. My partner is into boots. He always has been. I on the other hand never wanted to be with a man with a fetish at all. But I fell for him before I knew this. Anyway he always maintained that since he met me it was only me wearing them that did it for him, but then one day in a rare moment of honesty he admitted it affects him/gives him a rush looking at other women in them too, in the street, at work or even relatives (he quickly took this back when he saw how much it upset me and now flat our denies it. But I know it's true. )
It creeps me out that when we go anywhere I catch him looking. I've started to dread rainy days, it's not just confined to sexy boots, it's any boots. He always notices what boots anyone is wearing at any occasion but can barely ever remember anything else about their or even my outfit. He remembers even months later what boots his sister in law wore to a bbq.
I GO OUT OF MY WAY to satisfy his fetish (would rather not go into detail but I've spent thousands and many hours of my life pandering to it). It hurts me deeply that this clearly isn't enough.
He says he loves me and is devoted and his actions prove this. But I'm madly jealous to the point now even when I see other women in boots I feel physically sick or like crying.
I'm extremely sexually open minded it's just an insecurity thing i know. But most guys like naked women, but they ain't gonna see them down the park iykwim.
I'm at a point I really want to break up with him over this but he won't let me and says I don't need to worry. I hate the servile aspect of his fetish and it actually turns me off a bit too making me see him as a beta male, or weak, and makes me even more insecure that he would be weak enough to fall for or obsess over, or worse, another woman if she was in the right footwear.
Please don't judge me or call me a prude here I just want to know how to try and get over my anxiety as it's at a point I dread all events I'm going to attend with him. Thanks so much for honest perspectives.