How do I become attracted to my OH again?
I love him very much.
He cheated on me last year (a one night stand) as a result of sexual frustration and incompatibility.
It’s not that we weren’t having sex at all, rather I was treating it more like a chore then a desire. It’s the standard cliche - 3 kids later - tired e.t.c
He also had a terrible way of nagging/sulking and if I’m honest being down right abusive and unsupportive on the topic.
His reasons were he wanted to feel wanted.
I believe he had very low self esteem from a few things; redundancy, hair loss and ageing in general!
I couldn’t tell him the reasons why I’m no longer attracted to him as he wouldn’t take it well even though it’s the truth.
He is 3 stone heavier than when we met and is a classic weekend binge drinker. He’s always had a huge appetite and struggles to stop eating if there’s food out even when he is painfully full.
He is very active but his intake is always greater than his outtake despite the high amount of exercise he does - football x2 a week, running x2 a week and x1 gym session.
I will say he rehydrates with lager after his footie!!!
He knows he is overweight and is forever “attempting to turn the barge around” and “quitting the drink” as he puts it! But he is plagued with leg injuries and quick to reach for a pint when the hangover is faded