Well not exactly beginners but it's been a while!
DH and I got together aged 20, used to have pretty good, mildly kinky sex (restraints, anal toys, light spanking), nothing heavy.
4 kids later and our sex life took a nosedive, once or twice a month and definitely very tame. This summer we had a trial separation (many issues I won't go into here) but we are trying to reconcile and although we are not living together we have started having sex again.
We are trying to be more honest and open in our communication and he's said he'd like to have more kinky sex. This is fine by me! Thing is I don't really know where to start. I suggested we go to a BDSM club like torture garden but he's not that keen although he's up for it if I want to. I need ideas that are more interesting than light bondage but less scary than some of the stuff I've found (electrodes and masks 
). I'm guessing porn has lots of ideas but there's so much gross stuff around, is like to be pointed in the right direction if possible. Thanks for any advice!