Sex after birth

[MrsLilymunster]

Hey everyone. I gave birth around a month ago with tear/stitches. Everything is healed but it feels quite different like it goes in like an appendix scar would. I was very ill during my pregnancy didn't have sex for a while and now I'm terrified of trying again! Any advice would be appreciated! !

Jeez I couldn't even walk or sit properly for nearly 7 weeks after an episiotomy. We didn't even think about trying to have sex for a good few months. It felt strange and a little sore then but got better.

Why not try to leave it a few more weeks there really is no rush. It's obviously up to you though x

I'm not really sure what advice your actually asking for, there is no guidelines and if you feel uncomfortable then don't do it.

Both my births were relatively straight forward, one with a small tear and I felt 'ready' at about 6 weeks (no stitches). My second birth no tears I would have actually felt ready almost straight away but I bled for 7 weeks then didn't actually get time until baby was about 10 weeks.

There is no rush, when you feel ready and in the mood go for it and just take it slow.

I guess I'm asking how did people ease into it again? Or how to not worry I'll rip on entry x

I was astonished; episiotomy, couldn't walk for a week, tears but as soon as DD was two weeks we dtd. It was a little sore but somehow was fine

Plenty of foreplay with as much lube as you need and just take it slowly ... so long as your DH doesn't get grumpy if you decide it's not happening.

I had a prolapse op earlier this year and the first couple of times we dtd we had to stop as it was too sore

I waited at least 6 months :(
Stitched, cut, sore, exhausted from feeding 2 hrs every night for 6 months.
Sex was way down list of priorities.

Take it slowly and don't rush.

Me and DH found that lube, lube and more lube was the secret.

I had an emergency CSection and thing we waited around 10-12 weeks to have sex again. The first couple of times it was too painful for me and we had to stop but when it eventually worked out, it was fine. It sounds crazy but we both now find that it's even better than before!!

Good luck OP. The thing to remember is that there's no set time and that you should ease back into things so that you are comfortable and happy with it

As PP have said - lube.... first time had an episiotomy and tried at around 9 weeks and could not as too painful. Tried again at 12 and was successful but sore.

Second time around had a much better birthing experience and only had a small tear. Got a little bit pissed over Xmas last year and did it with no issues. That was at about 6 weeks post partum.

I guess there is no right or wrong time - just whenever you feel comfortable.