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Dilemma

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MyBreadIsEggy · 23/09/2017 17:35

Hoping for an answer before DH gets home! - ideally from a male perspective too if possible!

So, DH is in the forces, has been away for quite a while and has made it clear through whatsapp messages that he feels like he's going to explode if he doesn't get some soon - and if I'm honest the feeling is mutual!
So I've made his favourite sweet treats, got his favourite drinks in etc and also treated myself to some beautiful new lingerie. Now the big question: do I just chill in my pjs with the lingerie underneath so it's a nice surprise, or just go the whole hog and great him at the door in said lingerie?
This is the first homecoming where the children will definitely be asleep so want to make the most of it!

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BrutusMcDogface · 23/09/2017 17:36

I think hide the lingerie under the pjs so he has a nice surprise when he tears the pjs off with his teeth

Enjoy!

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MyBreadIsEggy · 23/09/2017 17:51

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BrieAndChilli · 23/09/2017 17:52

If the kids are in bed I'd do the whole open the door in the underwear thing

AkimboLimbo · 23/09/2017 17:53

I don't think he'll care!!
Enjoy

NeonFlower · 23/09/2017 18:04

Hmm, if it was you arriving you could do the whole arriving in only lingerie and a coat thing.

Piratesandpants · 23/09/2017 18:05

Whole hog!

Proudmummytodc2 · 23/09/2017 19:49

I don't know if it's too late but I will add anyway.

I would answer the door in full lingerie I also asked my DH for you and he agreed and said he would prefer the door getting answered with his mrs in the lingerie.

GunnyHighway · 23/09/2017 19:51

Let him get home, have a drink and the treats and excuse yourself.

Come out in lingerie when the time is right.

I am both a bloke and a soldier that's been away for a week here and there and done and a seven month tour.

In fairness lingerie or no he'll be a happy bunny. Coming home is its own reward

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MyBreadIsEggy · 23/09/2017 21:02

At this rate he will be lucky if I'm still awake when he gets home!! His flight was delayed getting into Brize Norton and he's still got to drive all the way home from there!!

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Isadora2007 · 23/09/2017 21:09

Guys would you mind sharing tips on how you help make long distance relationships work out whilst in the army/forces? Especially if you are sharing a room so don't have the privacy to call/FaceTime often.
Not for me but for a young relative who is in a relatively new relationship and he is away for a good few months now and they're struggling.

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MyBreadIsEggy · 23/09/2017 21:41

Isadora does he have internet access?? Or just the usual 30 min phone allowance??
Depends where in the world he is and how sensitive the operation/exercise is.
For example, the times my DH has been in Afghanistan, mobile phones are a no-go, so phone access was unreliable. But when he was in one of the big British bases there, he could get internet access now and again so we would talk on Skype as much as we could and send lots and lots of letters
Where he's been at the moment, the security is a lot less hardcore, /9 he's been able to take his personal phone but hasn't had much signal or internet access. These days, WhatsApp messenger is a must as it's encrypted so messages can't be intercepted by any nasties. And it's also good for sending the odd cheeky photo Just need to be quite inventive on how those are done. I always make sure it's not immediately obvious it's me - so then if it did fall into the hands of any of dh's colleagues, it wouldn't be too embarrassing!!!

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coldcuptea · 23/09/2017 22:23

What always worked for us is me wearing a really nice dress ( doesn't have to be pjs or nothing ). Simple - short , black and tight with the said Lingerie underneath .

HerOtherHalf · 24/09/2017 07:11

Hope he's home safe now and you had a great night. From my perspective, i think being greeted at the door by the full lingerie experience would be my preference. That said, if we'd been apart for months (or even days) my wife could be wearing a black bin bag and she'd still be the sexiest sight in my eyes. I expect your OH is much the same.

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MyBreadIsEggy · 24/09/2017 08:38

So.....
He didn't get in until gone midnight and I was asleep on the sofa - in my pjs with lingerie underneath!
So it was more of a pleasant surprise than "in his face"

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Isadora2007 · 24/09/2017 10:29

@myeggisbready
Thank you. I will mention whatsapp as I believe they use the snapchat messenger to talk. He has been able to FaceTime but normal calls seem patchy with a bad line. He has his mobile and its a British base abroad. Working with the UN...
I think they're both finding it tough- they're young and he doesn't do emotion well so keeps shutting down. And there is four months to go til he even gets a break home for a few weeks.
It's a hard life though I guess- so she has to know if she can handle times like this.
Hope your night was lovely. Bet it's great to wake up together too.

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MyBreadIsEggy · 24/09/2017 11:09

Isadora its tough - but they will be fine!
I deal with it quite well now, but our eldest child is only 2 and doesn't understand why her daddy keeps disappearing

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