Have put a bit of weight on and am avoiding sex with DH - someone please tell me I am being ridiculous!

[SecretMagicThings]

I'm normally slim but have gained a tummy over the summer holidays. DH hasn't said anything but it is fairly obvious (clothes don't fit) so I'd be surprised if he hadn't noticed.

Realised tonight I have avoided sex or being touched in general the last few nights (despite feeling up for it) as I am a bit self conscious . Can somebody shake me out of it please? Don't know whether to just mention it so it's out there or whether to hide under the covers.

We have been together forever so it shouldn't be a big deal.

I'm a size 16/18, my other half is over 10 years younger and tall slim and gorgeous, one of his favourite parts of me? My (to me) fat flabby belly! Loves it can't get enough of it!

I won't say how I know (well maybe by pm) but trust me when I say men like all shapes and sizes sexually AND he loves you he wants to be intimate and close with you, don't let a few extra pounds (that you'll prob lose soon) get in the way of that.

He sounds like a keeper Graphista .

You have all reassured me, thanks! Perhaps I will even stop trying to hold my tummy in then, it doesn't exactly make for good sex or feeling relaxed .

I think so but early days yet

I was a 18/20 when I first met my dh. We didn't see each other for another 3 months after first meeting and I went to SW and lost around 2 stones in those three months.

He didn't even notice.

He certainly doesn't care. What he does care about is me feeling comfortable and us being intimate and enjoying ourselves.

Please don't shut him out.

Yes perhaps he hasn't noticed and I have definitely been shutting him out a bit. Trying to get the motivation to get back to exercise.