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Poor timing sex

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RandomName80 · 06/08/2017 17:03

Just curious to know if I am the only person who's DP always wants sexual favors at the most inconvenient time ever?

He usually leaves for work after me and, of a morning, will almost always wait to initiate until I am ready and dressed for work. I then can't be bothered with full on sex but usually cave and feel obliged to give him a handjob while desperately trying to avoid getting cum on my outfit and having to run and scrub my hands to rid of that gross cum-y smell.

Have tried to initiate before I get ready but he is always too sleepy.

Is this just us?

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thereallochnessmonster · 06/08/2017 17:05

Just say no?

No, dh does not demand sex at bizarre or inconvenient times...

histinyhandsarefrozen · 06/08/2017 17:05

Dear god. That is awful. He sounds awful.
What would happen if you said, no, let's do it tmrw when we've got more time?

histinyhandsarefrozen · 06/08/2017 17:07

Why on earth do you feel obliged to give him a hand job when you're racing to work?

Think about it.

SleepingStandingUp · 06/08/2017 17:07

Why do you cave?

lovemycatsanddog · 06/08/2017 17:09

Maybe your work clothes turn hm on, try wearing them at bedtime lol

JaneEyre70 · 06/08/2017 17:09

Seriously Hmm. Tell him to grow up.

OrphanAccount · 06/08/2017 17:10

You 'cave' and give him a handjob before rushing out the door and trying to avoid getting spunk on your work clothes? It doesn't sound nice for you at all. Why does he feel entitled to sexual favours on demand? Why do you feel it's your job to oblige?

topcat2014 · 06/08/2017 17:10

I can't imagine anything less erotic?

Mind you, we are the reverse - no time ever seems to be convenient!

Redglitter · 06/08/2017 17:11

Say no. Don't encourage him. He sounds lovely Hmm

GladAllOver · 06/08/2017 17:12

Are your work clothes are nurse's uniform by any chance? Apparently that turns some men on!

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RandomName80 · 06/08/2017 17:12

Thanks. I don't always agree to it but, where there is time, I am certaintly not doing it against my will... just that it is bloody annoying he only ever wakes up (and is horny) after I gets dressed!

Re the cum-on-outfit situation have almost considered equipping myself with one of those poly aprons (we have some left over from diy) over my work clothes but decided that this was just far too sillly!

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ChickenBhuna · 06/08/2017 17:12

Sounds like he's a deliberate hindrance OP.

Does he try to control your time in other ways? Make you late for meeting people etc.

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RandomName80 · 06/08/2017 17:13

Heh - I work in an office, so not even anything particularly sexy!

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SleepingStandingUp · 06/08/2017 19:46

It seems deliberately set to ensure the only pleasure is his. Its not even hoik up your skirt for a quicky.

BackToTheCaveman · 06/08/2017 21:13

I could write a book on this, but it's part of our "kink" :-)

histinyhandsarefrozen · 06/08/2017 21:21

Oh I just love those kinks where the guy is getting off and the woman is sitting there feeling obliged and hoping she's not going to get fired. :)

iMatter · 06/08/2017 21:22

"Sexual favours"

Really?

BackToTheCaveman · 06/08/2017 21:43

histinyhandsarefrozen ours is 100% consensual. I suspect by your response you have no idea what I am talking about.

thereallochnessmonster · 06/08/2017 23:32

Histinyhandsarefrozen ours is 100% consensual. I suspect by your response you have no idea what I am talking about.

No, and nor do I. In what world is it OK for someone to pester someone for sex when it's completely inappropriate/when they're trying to leave for work?? Can't imagine anything less sexy.

When does she get her kicks??

TheNaze73 · 07/08/2017 15:36

Have you discussed this with him about his timing?

AdalindSchade · 07/08/2017 20:02

This is really crap you know OP. In fact hand jobs that aren't part of mutually satisfying sexual contact are pretty crap all round. If he wants a wank he can have one after you have left. I certainly wouldn't be putting up with this in lieu of decent sex.

DaisysStew · 07/08/2017 20:19

My ex used to do this and it really pissed me off for 2 reasons:

  1. It meant that if I caved it was a hj or a quicky which does nothing for me, so instead of mutually enjoyable sex it was me "doing him a favour".

  2. I felt like it was a control thing. That I was there to serve him and that he felt his sexual needs came before my job and needing to get to work on time. He couldn't bear everything not being about him.

Not saying it's the same with your dp but you need to have words and let him know that it does nothing for you and you'd rather wait until later.

cupidmatch · 08/08/2017 11:12

I'd say he's interested in how you dress just before work.

AkimboLimbo · 08/08/2017 23:29

Sounds like he's just lazy. He can't be bothered to put the effort in for sex so waits until it isn't convenient then pushes for a hand job. Most of the time you cave and oblige.
I'm happy to give a handjob on occasions but this is not my idea of fun.

KimchiLaLa · 08/08/2017 23:34

Who has time before they go to work?

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