Therapy?

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Has anyone been to sex/relationship therapy with their partner for emotional sexual problems (rather than physical) and wouldn't mind sharing their experience with me? Was in helpful? I'm at a point where I want to say it's therapy or I'm leaving but DP is reluctant (he wants the problem to be better but struggles to talk about his feelings, therapy is a scary proposition for him). But I don't know how helpful it would be. I'm just willing to try anything because I don't want us to break up.

Thanks so much in advance to anyone who could share

Relate could be a starting point. The specific sexual relations therapy tends to deal with physical issues or severe such as sex addiction or porn addiction. Emotional stuff without relationships that have an effect on sex can and is "normal" couple work.

Thanks Isadora. Yes I've looked at Relate. It's expensive but we might just have to figure it out. It does fall more into sex, we have a great relationship and the only problem we have is around sex, so I mean emotional rather than erectile disfuction or that sort of thing.

To try and make a long story short, we have mismatched sex drives and desires and lot of anxiety has been built up around it for both of us after years of trying to make it better but that has just compounded the issue. It feels like we sort of need to go back to the beginning and start again but that's not really possible!

My suggestion FWIW would be to go tantric. Discover each other again without the emotional baggage. Tantric meditation with each other could help.

Yes - DH and I went to Relate for relationship problems (some of which related to my psychosexual issues). We attended couples therapy for the relationship issues, and I then attended individual sessions for my psychosexual problems. It was very beneficial. If you initially go as a couple and break the ice then it's likely the therapist will suggest individual sessions for your DH (if it's his sexual issues), and by then he'll probably be more comfortable to do so.

Yes. Not willing to say too much (was my issues and more physical but emotional too) but it was hugely helpful.